No common sense at all - why?

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Registered: 08-09-2007
No common sense at all - why?
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 12:53pm

My wife, has 3 daughters and a son from a prev. marriage.


Her 10 and 12 y.o. daughters have very good common sense.


However, her 15 year old daughter

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:31pm

LOL. I am glad I am not the only one with a teen without common sense! (I was beginning to think it was just me!!)


My SS(15) also has NO, and I mean NO common sense! (and I am totally not buying that "oh, he's a typical teenager" crap. He has NEVER had common sense. I recently spoke to my mother about this and she believes that either you have it or you don't. It is not something that is learned or that you "grow into". I agree with her. My SS has lived with us for 6 years now and for the past 5 years he has had to clean the kitchen a few times a week after dinner. Wash the dishes (or put them in the dishwasher if empty), wash any pots and pans, wipe all the counters down. Wipe the table, throw away the napkins, put leftovers away etc... you know CLEAN IT UP. and STILL to this day he can't seem to CLEAN the kitchen in it's entirety. There is ALWAYS something that he "forgot". Drives me NUTS!!! Call it laziness call it whatever, I chalk it up to lack of common sense. He will go outside in the heat of the summer (we live in FL) and leave the door open. HELLO its 95 outside. I have to tell him to close the door. The list goes on and on.

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Registered: 12-31-2006
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 12:36am

I think my DD is dating your DS

Sorry I couldn't help but make the joke. I just wish her parents seem to be as concerned as you are. My sons gf seems to have no brains, morals, or parents who are the least bit concerned about her activities. I will tell you I have a niece who acted very similar at that age but now at 20 is a lovely young lady and I know my sister thought there was no hope but she just plugged away and kept singing her tune and the girl turned out ok-actually better than ok. So hang in there.

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Registered: 08-09-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:16am

So many of the things posted here, I have tried.

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:56am

I've got to say, Luigi, maybe you need to lighten up a bit.

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:00am
Well then, all you can do is persevere. There's no easy answer and no one ever promised us a rose garden.

 

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:39am

Also, on a prickly note...maybe you shouldn't refer to your DSD as the typical 'dumb blonde'.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:54am

Luigi, I think you need to see a therapist, on your own, without dsd or dw. You need to get a reality check on what is expected behavior in teens and what is not. You also need to recognize the fact that some of your references are out of line, such as

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 3:57pm

Sometimes kids have to suffer the consequences of their actions to "get it."

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Registered: 01-22-2008
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:25am

It sounds like she is a typical 15-year-old teenage girl.

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 9:10am
I'm constantly taking empty bottles and boxes out of the refrigerator and cupboards! And I definately have other things going on that are more important. Sometimes, one just has to "roll with it" and move on.