Dh doesn't believe in counseling, so would never agree to it.
You're right that it has to about the whole family, not just one child.
This is what happens when you marry someone who is NOT a child-less, orphaned bachelor or spinster.
You know I did.
I could definitely see the girls not wanting to come over if this boy was still on drugs but from all accounts, he's off drugs and basically a nice kid, even though unmotivated in school--so really what is the problem?
The problem with our "kids" is they are all over 18 which means we, as their parents, can't TELL them what to do.
Oh...as for dh, yes...he IS one of "those" men who just don't believe in counseling.