Not sure how to handle daughter
Find a Conversation
Not sure how to handle daughter
| Fri, 11-18-2011 - 10:05am |
My 15 yr old daughter is a bright loving child.
Latest from the board
- Siblings attend each other's events? 6
- When to have the first GYN exam? 10
- De-Lurking to Vent About Prom Drama... 6
- DD wants to dye her hair.....green 10
- To everyone who gave me advice about my daughter modeling 3
- Prom and a teen who moved out 9
- Teen Daughter Wants to Model 6
- Random Act of Kindness for Teens
- For those of you that celebrate Easter 5
- Win a $50 gift card from Wallis Fashion!
Memeber Support
Visit our Member Support area or browse the iVillage Help forum
| Q: | Where can I change my password? |
| A: | Log in, go to Edit My Preferences, and click the Account tab. Make and save your changes. |
Pages
Sue
Thanks Sue,
I also thought of this, hence one reason for seeking advice.
Sue
Hi and welcome to the board. Was she excited about playing at the beginning of this year? Does she like to shoot baskets at home just for fun? It does sound like for whatever reason she has lost interest; whether something specific happened or whether she's just lost the passion for the sport is the issue. I'd try the direct approach - 'You say your shoulder is bothering you but you aren't doing the exercises to help make it better and you don't seem interested in even practicing. Is there something else bothering you? Are the girls all getting along on the team? Are you getting burned out?' Good luck and keep us posted.
She still seems interested in playing or at least being part of the team.
I, also, believe she does not want to play, but does not think she can simply TELL you that.
Yes, my dd is very interested in other activities such as art music an writing.
I only know what you have said, and here it is.
<<>>
<<
Thank you
I think your 3 options are just fine. If she's not truely injured, she needs to be practicing. If she's got an injury that pulls her out of practice for 2 weeks, she should absolutely be seen by a doctor. If she's not going to practice and won't be seen by a doctor, then really, she shouldn't be on the team. You are giving her very fair options in my opinion.
At this age, kids are starting to look more realistically at where they are abilty wise and it's normal for some refocusing to happen. It may be that she does enjoy the sport but perhaps she's not really fitting on this competitive team. She may go back to it more recreationally later.
If this were a serial problem, I might think differently but it's OK to switch gears once in awhile. I'd still want her to do "something" but it doesn't have to be basketball.
Pages