Oh this is gonna be a fun season

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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 1:21pm
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 1:30pm

I have to wonder if the coach hasn't decided she's going to prove to you that you can't tell her how to run her squad!

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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 1:40pm

HAHA I could really careless how she runs her squad - the tryouts were a joke and that's all I pointed out. I even told her I thought she had a great squad. BUT I was just pointing out to her since she obviously forgot my dd does have back issues. And her Drs have always said no basing.... no extra weight to that back, plain and simple... I'm just pointing out she's not paralyzing my dd and thinking that waiver covers her butt :D

My dd went through hell for that squad last year - the coach initially blew it off that she was being a baby. I think the fractured ankle and stress fractures in her back that she cheered on for 2 months point out dd's heart is in this. If she wants dd off the squad as a liability dd and I are both fine with it.

DD was made captain and everyone turns to her for help.




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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 6:11pm

It's tough dealing with know-it-all coaches, who of course think any parent who opens his/her mouth is a know-it-all poisonparent. If I were you I'd get the Dr. to write a note stating that your DD should not be basing.

Last year, as a senior, DS was stuck playing a position he hates, all season, util he was kicked off the team for the last three games cuz of his drinking incident. I still think the reason he was stuck in that position is that the president of the soccer boosters convinced the coach that DS was the most awesome sweeper (last defender). The fact is that he is NOT the best sweeper, he does not enjoy it, and he played center-mid on his club team. But DS is an introvert and would never open his mouth and tell the coach he was unhappy for fear that the coach wouldn't play him at all. He probably risked drinking, knowing full well that he could be kicked off the team, because he was sick of being stuck in back, out of the action, and really didn't care about soccer any more.

Why do coaches NEVER ask the kids what postions they want? Don't they know that having happy kids can improve the performance of the whole team? I never said a word--learned years ago that you cannot tell a coach anything. I am SO glad to be done with HS sports now that DS in in college!

Good luck to you and your DD in your dealings with her coach.

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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 7:01pm

The absurd thing is this coach has never cheered before - she was a gymnast. Believe me I will be getting a note from her doctor about basing, BUT they leave Sunday for camp and of course her sports doctor's office was not open today. DD and I have come to the conclusion if this email is ignored, then dd will not be going and she's done. $300 bucks shot.

This isn't the only team dd cheers for - she cheers for an allstar team that travels and competes. This costs $$$ whether she can cheer or not, so if this coach screws her back up again, I'm out some even bigger buck over the course of the next year. We sign a contract stating as much :( So dd and I have that to think about as well.

I just don't want everyone to think this is a catfight over positions - this coach knows dd can fly but for some reason is dead set against it this year. The only thing that makes sense is she is holding last year against dd - although coach played a huge role in that!! The girl that is flying in dd's spot - has never flown before and is literally one pound lighter than dd.

Last year, because this coach didn't listen to when my dd said she was in pain, we were going to Physical Therapists twice a week for months and then, until she got mono, the sports dr bi-weekly. That was quite time consuming.

I'm just not ready to a repeat of last year and I definitely don't want to lose a ton of money with the other team when this "coach" decides she knows more about my dd's pain than she does....




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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 8:58pm
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this, kel.
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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 9:09am

Then pull her out of the team. If she doesn't need to be there it isn't worth the hassle. You might get some cooperation initially if you force the issue and then she'll be back to her old practices and you will be at it again and again with your poor dd's health in the balance!

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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:16am
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 4:02am

I know nothing about cheering, but I do know how to deal with school administrations. I am assuming that this is a high school related team. If it was me, I would send an email to the coach with a cc to the director of physical ed (or whomever she reports to) and to the Principal of the school. In the email I would present the history between you and her so far as you have told us as backgrounder for the cc's to the higher ups. I would then state that you are giving notice that the waiver you signed is hereby modified to exclude any injury that is the result of your DD being assigned to any position such as basing or fronting that will put pressure on her back. I would probably follow that up with a written and signed copy that would be sent to all three parties. She is unlikely to ignore you after that.

Jason

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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 11:48am
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 1:44pm

If it was me, I would do the next step now. Rescind your liability wavier from basing and fronting, etc. and write a letter to the director AND the principal. If you wait until the next incident, that might be after your DD has great back injury. As much as your DD liked the last coach, you need to include the story of her pushing your DD into geat injury after she was informed of severe pain. Coaches are notorious for doing this kind of crap because they sometimes are more interested in winning than in the welfare of the players. That ought not be the case in professional sports and certainly has no place in high school ones. In industry, if a boss didn't immediately send an employee to the doctor after a complaint like your DD made, the company would be in huge hot water with both OSHA and their workmen's comp insurance company.

For your DD's sake and for all the girls behind her, I would make sure these coaches were brought back to the reality of safety and child welfare needs to be the first consideration.

Jason

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