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| Wed, 01-23-2008 - 12:31pm |
I'll just introduce myself. I'm Jennifer. I'm 36. I have a 15yr old daughter. I'm going insane. I just found this place, and will do some reading to get the hang of it.
It's good to know I'm not alone, and that maybe some other mom is feeling like a failure- not eating well because of that nauseous feeling and not sleeping well.
And she's a much better teen than I was. :|

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Welcome, Jennifer! I think you'll find everyone here very willing to help. You're bound to get some good ideas! I live in the Northeast, and have a DD16 and a DS 13 (almost 14).
EJ
Thanks EJ, I am also in the northeast!
Oh & I also have 2 boys, 7yrs & 3(almost 4). They're a piece of cake compared to my dd. Then again, she was a piece of cake till this year. Ugh.
Welcome to this board, Jennifer! Glad you found us, as we are all in this thing called "parenting teen-agers". This is a great board and in many ways, a life line for sanity.
My name is Amelia and I have a dd (16) and a ds (12). I am a single parent and this board is where I come for parenting advice when I need it. Let us know how we can help - and if we don't always have the answer, at least you will quickly see that you are most definately not alone!
Welcome again!
Amelia
Welcome!
Aaahhh...Milwaukee. I miss that city. DH and I met at UW-Milwaukee, and we lived there 15 years after I got my B.S. Then we relocated to SW MI for 15 years, and now we're in northern VA.
We go through Milwaukee occasionally en route to my mom's in Manitowoc. The parks and the lake are wonderful, and traffic is not bad; here in the DC metro area traffic is absolutely awful! (Good thing we're close to the metro.) Until we moved away, I never understood why people said the parks were so great, but they truly are. The cold weather is the only thing I don't miss.
Have some Kopp's custard for us--no one loads it with macadamia nuts like they do. And enjoy a nice dinner at Albanese's, on Keefe, with some of their homemade pasta & vino. (It was kind of sad to see they needed security guards outside about 5 years back, but we didn't see them last year when we stopped for dinner.)
This board was a great refuge for me, too, when I was worried about DS when he was a senior; and I lost weight, also. Not a good way to do it, though.
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Thanks to you all for the warm welcome. I'm not new to boarding, just new to this one & I know how sometimes new comers aren't taken in as easily, so thanks!
So.. Is it normal that I feel like I'm failing as a parent? That I feel like my sweet, gifted, willing to please daughter has disappeared & left some ungrateful, liar in her place?
To feel like I'm doing it all wrong?
Hi, there, I'm Jane.
I felt just like you several
My youngest has always had learning issues but my older two were stellar students in the grade school years. I had teachers complimenting me on their abilities. I had everyone complimenting me on their behavior and personalities. What greater compliment is there than to have someone say "I have girls. But if I had a boy, I would have wanted him to be just like your son".
We were doing such an awesome job and had dreams of Nobel Prize winners dancing through our heads.
Then the teen years hit! Hard!
DS1 did not fall into any of the behavior problems but he lost all motivation for school.
DS2 managed to do all the behavior problems AND have the lack of motivation. The only thing we missed with DS2 was relationship problems-all my boys are late bloomers in the dating realm, something I have learned from the board to be grateful for
DS3 at 16 remains my angel but, realistically, my expectations are lower because of his LDs(forget the Nobel Prize-lets just graduate HS)
So, yeah, I felt like a failure many a time. I think I might have handled it better if there had been more problems in the early years, KWIM.
And it doesnt help to hear the stories of perfection all around you. The year DS1 dropped out of college it seemed as if everyone else was getting perfect GPAs THEIR first semester . The boards are good that way in that you dont feel so alone. You might hit a 'brag time' on this or the college board and feel you dont belong, but come back in a month and it will be one disaster after another
Welcome!
I'm so glad I decided to check this board out!!
Jane- how is the lexapro working for you? My Dr. suggested I give it a try, but I'm skeptical of something I'd have to be on forever, you know? I already take 3 drugs for sinus/allergy related issues.
And how about the sex life? I'm already practically down to like 5 times a year- I don't want it to get worse! lol! BOOHOO!!
And I could DEFINITELY benefit from some counseling/therapy. My Mom passed away from cancer about 3 years ago & I haven't dealt with THAT yet. How am I supposed to deal with "losing" my daughter too??
I'm just overwhelmed.
And the "bright" side, dd is a dancer. A pretty committed one too. She dances about 12 hours a week. So at least she has that to keep her busy (and of course, me DRIVING).
My husband isn't her bio-dad and she has never met her bio-dad. So I also feel that I do 99% of HER parenting. Not because DH doesn't want to, I just tend to take it on myself. :\
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