OK everyone - let's have some fun

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OK everyone - let's have some fun
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:12pm

We all had our chance to say what we needed to say in that other thread.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 12:34am

I'm very sorry to hear you and a few others here are feeling a bit off this Christmas. I understand it's difficult when the traditions and routines we're used to get sidetracked around the holidays.


Here's wishing you all a pleasant day with new and renewed traditions and memories.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 12:44am

Thanks for the note.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 1:06am
I understand why you are feeling a bit off for the holiday season. So what is my excuse.
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 8:42am

Julie,


This may sound stupid, but are you sure he wasn't inviting you by talking about the party? I could just see a guy doing that---talking all about it, and assuming you knew you were invited. (Sorry, Daddioe! I know all guys aren't the same!!) I could just see his wife saying to him on Christmas Day "Where are Julie & the family? You did invite them, didn't you?" And he replies, "Yes, I told them about the party!"


It's possible, isn't it?? Regardless, my little family has almost always had Christmas just as the four of us. It can be really nice & peaceful. You can do whatever you want, you don't have to get dressed up,

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 8:50am

I have just been going through the motions. I don't know what it is this year, I'm just really blah.


I'm right there with you, Kristie! I feel the same way. I think it's the rampant commercialism that has just gotten to be too much--and my DS's "wish list" is actually more like a "list of demands". It has really gotten me down. I want a big do-over on how I've approached Christmas with my kids!

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 8:58am

<<'m right there with you, Kristie! I feel the same way. I think it's the rampant commercialism that has just gotten to be too much--and my DS's "wish list" is actually more like a "list of demands". It has really gotten me down. I want a big do-over on how I've approached Christmas with my kids!>>

Same here! Although I find I have gotten so dependent on lists with the older two, I dont know what to do without one

DS2 has a Dec birthday and we got him much of what was on the list. Ther remainder are winter clothing items which are completely out of stock at this time(I have googgled my eyes dry)

Despite several requests, he wont come up with other ideas and I dont want to give him cash.

He sooo doesnt need clothing.

So I feel guilty I cant even come up with an appropriate gift for my own son, stilted on the 'shopping list' feel for the rest of the family, and am generally confused about the whole adult child present thing to boot(did I mention what about SOs)

I like hydrangea's idea about a trip-something to think about for next year although there is still the SO thing to deal with

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 1:33pm

Prime rib sounds delicious! I ordered a ham dinner from the grocery store--never tried that before. When it's just me and the 3 guys, I end up doing all the cooking, baking, cleaning, shopping and decorating myself--so I'm giving myself a break this year.

Like others here, I'm not exactly in the holiday mood this year. Didn't even get a tree cuz we'll be on the road after Xmas. And we've got so much "stuff" still looking for a dedicated spot in our house, I couldn't bring myself to buy any more stuff to decorate. But I do play the Xmas music quite a bit.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 1:48pm

Well, I had my little holiday meltdown at the mall w/ the kids this morning. DH and I took them shopping, as we do before Christmas every year, so they could buy little gifts for us, for each other, and for a couple of friends. We sent them off on their own at first while DH and I had coffee. After 45 minutes, they came back w/ no presents. I found them in a store, where DS was about to buy DD something she told him she wanted. They had also been to a store where DS showed DD what he wanted. I almost started crying--which DS realized--because the whole thing has just gotten so meaningless. I mean, why don't I just give them cash and let them go out and buy their own gifts, for Pete's sake??? Why were they shopping for themselves first, with nary a thought to anyone else?!


Next year, I am going w/ the 4-gift rule that someone suggested last week--something you want, something you need, something to do, something to read. And these guys are going to have to save up their own $$ for Christmas gift buying. I'm done giving them cash when they spend all of their allowance mindlessly all year. Something has to change here!

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 2:57pm

I'm finding it kinda interesting that alot of us are feeling the same way about Christmas.

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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 3:59pm
Greeetings! I'm Helen (53) from way out west and an often lurker but seldom poster. DH and I have DD20 (college) and DS 16 (HS junior). Coffee is mandatory to start my day but I can only handle decaf. DD works at Starbucks and says she is "giving everyone" coffee for Xmas because she gets a free pound a week so I'm going to be well supplied. I treat myself to diet pop if I exercise :) which also entitles me to another shower, which I love!

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