Ok this is going to sound so stupid....
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Ok this is going to sound so stupid....
| Thu, 09-20-2007 - 1:18pm |
This is going to sound so stupid and so insecure and even as I think it I know I'm being silly and ridiculous but I'm here to vent and to be honest about my feelings so...here it goes....
Does anyone else here ever *worry* about the fact that their kids are NOT socially involved with the opposite sex?

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When I first started reading your post I was thinking 'Be glad that she's not into the whole boy thing'.
Wowie ... I have the same concerns about my DD!
Hi,
I just wanted to say I sympathize with you and maybe have an idea or 2.
When you're alone with your dd, does she ever talk about the boys that are her "friends"?
Does you DD talk about having crushes on boys? I never dated in high school; partially because I was younger than everyone in my grade (I graduated at 16), but also because I was a geek! But I had lots of unrequited crushes that my parents knew about. It isn't necessarily anything to worry about. My DH was my first real boyfriend. I met him in college when I was 18, and we've been married over 20 years! I didn't feel like I missed out on a lot by not dating earlier. Of course, I was more awkward around boys in college than a lot of other girls might have been, but I think it's a matter of meeting the right person.
Are you also worried that your daughter might not be interested in boys at all? I would say that it isn't necessarily a bad thing for your daughter not to be distracted by the whole boy-girl drama right now. Sixteen is still pretty young.
Just wanted to add one more thing about this ...
I worry too, that if and when the bf comes along, will DD be so hung up on the idea of having a bf and being in a relationship that she'll compromise her values and morals in an effort to make it 'stick'?
Your daughter sounds a lot like myself at that age.
Yes of course, I know you make a lot of sense.
You are not being silly or stupid but please try not to worry. There are MANY MANY
girls and boys like your daughter. I would actually say that she is most likely in the majority in our country, contrary to what you see on TV.
As you know I have a 19-year-old DD and a 17-year-old DS. The girl is away at university, at a school I am sure you have guessed already, in a very demanding program. She is extremely accomplished, highly gifted and very pretty. My DS is in his last year of high school. And he is no slouch either.
When my DD was in high school, she was not interested in having a boyfriend. Sure, she has lots of male friends but no one special. Her friends (male and female) were the same. She didn't have the inclination nor time. In university, she had a boyfriend for a time but decided that he was "not for her". Far from having trouble dealing with young men, she has many male acquaintances in university. But she is just very selective as to who she dates. To my thinking, that is not only very wise but very healthy.
My son has no interest in dating; he finds most girls "air heads" and too interested in clothes and what they look like for his taste. Am I worried? No. Both have said that they have no interest in being involved in serious relationships until they are much older.
I wouldn't be too worried about her - some kids just don't date much in hs... two of my 3 DSs never really dated much until they were 18.
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