Ok this is going to sound so stupid....

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Registered: 07-19-2003
Ok this is going to sound so stupid....
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 1:18pm

This is going to sound so stupid and so insecure and even as I think it I know I'm being silly and ridiculous but I'm here to vent and to be honest about my feelings so...here it goes....


Does anyone else here ever *worry* about the fact that their kids are NOT socially involved with the opposite sex?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-20-2007 - 8:22pm

She may be coming off as unapproachable in some way. I would say many boys that age who are friends are interested in more but are waiting for a signal to make a move; I would strongly suspect that about her IM companion

The question is, does she care? If she wants a BF, then maybe there needs to be some advice given-I would imagine there are plenty of books on this thing and there may even be a decent one amongst the mix! You know a "when boy does X, he is interested and, if you are, then you need to do Y"

My oldest was clueless. Although somewhat geeky, he is tall and good enough looking that WE noticed girls noticing by age 16 when we were in restaurants. He was clueless. I'm not saying he didnt know how to respond; he didnt notice. I have probably told the story before about picking him up from 4th grade just a few minutes early for a dr appt; the bell rang and kids spilled in the hall. It was constant; "Hi C!" "Hello C" and not a word came out of his mouth. I got him in the car and started reading him the riot act about how rude he was to those kids; he looked at me quizzically and asked "What kids?"

Two of mine are spacy(one has a dx of ADD inattentive)and I have to admit they come by it honestly. When DH and I walk the dogs, I say hello to neighbors because I hear DH greeting and follow suit; I simply am too far off in la-la land to notice

Does any of this fit DD?

I think it is common for a certain type of kid. If she is into her dance or academics, she just isnt noticing.

I dont think it's a bad thing but DS2s GF has told him he doesnt know how to have a GF and has admonished him for not having a GF in high school where he was supposed to learn these things. Oh, well-they have been together a year now and she changed colleges at the last minute to be closer to him so...he must be catching on!

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