One-on-One

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Registered: 03-14-2003
One-on-One
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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 12:51pm
It is so important during these years to have some one-on-one time with our kids.

This weekend for example, my hubby and son left this morning for a camping/fishing trip and they won't return until late Sunday. They really need the one-on-one time to reconnect as things have been a bit strained between the two of them. I know they'll have a great time, they always do, year after year.

So while they are gone, my daughter and I will have our one-on-one time. We have agreed not to allow outside distractions interfere with our time together. She was invited by friends to go bowling this Saturday, but she declined. Told her pals, that this was the special weekend that she spends with mom only and was looking forward to it. Her friends tried to coerce her into coming and bringing me along. I enjoy her friends, but quite honestly. . .no thanks, LOL! She stood steadfast in her decision to just hang with mom. What a kid!

Question:

How often do you carve out one-on-one time with your teen(s)?

Do you both enjoy it or do you feel that your teen does it because they are afraid of hurting your feelings if told no?

What do you normally do during these times?



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Registered: 04-20-2003
In reply to: cm_twoki
Sun, 05-18-2003 - 6:08pm
I have tons of one on one time with my son because he plays competitive ice hockey and I'm the one that takes him to his games and practices 60% - 70% of the time. With practice 2x - 3x a week and 3 or 4 games every weekend from September through March we spend a lot of time talking. I also will take him to the skate park where he does in-line trick skating - even though I don't skate I'll hang on the bars and talk to him about the tricks he is doing rather than go in the 'parent room' where the other parents read magazines and talk on cell phones. I'll shoot hoops with him in the driveway too. My daughter and I have alone time every morning on the way to school and in the afternoon on the way back - it's a 20 - 30 minute ride each way, plus we LOVE Barnes & Nobel and will spend 3 - 6 hours there browzing and talking about different books. I would say that my husband really does not get one-on-one time with our daughter, he does with his son, he ice skates etc., with him, takes him to games and stuff.

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