opposite sex friendships?

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Registered: 02-15-2006
opposite sex friendships?
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Fri, 02-02-2007 - 11:12am
my dd14 is "best friends" with a boy who is gay. they want to have sleep overs. i am opposed and my dh is extremly opposed. the kids get so upset about this and insist that they would never be attracted to eachother. i see their point, but kids can be so experimental. i dont really think my dd would do anything crazy, but she is so spontaneous that she shocks me sometimes.
ive left them alone to run to the store in the past and ive had friends tell me i shouldnt do that either.
im just looking for some feedback.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 12:01pm
It's interesting that you say this.

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 8:41pm

Why shouldn't teens have sleepovers? What can happen at a sleepover can happen anywhere else, too, and there comes a point where I don't think a parent can hold a child's hand and guide them through every little thing.

I guess my friends are different, though. On sleepovers, we play with the Wii, PlayStation 2 or GameCube games. We watch movies. We eat - and eat - and eat. Oh yes - and we sleep.

We drink, too. Most of us are eighteen, and the rest of the parents don't have an issue with underage drinking. The fact is that we can drink if we want to, and there are many times when we say, "Hmm, nah, I don't feel like it tonight". It's just not an issue. Maybe this is because our drinking age is eighteen. There are some people who will drink to get drunk, and others who drink for the taste, for enjoyment. I'm the latter, and so are most of my friends. But those two groups exist everywhere.

Sexual behaviour, however. Yes, I see your - or, well, everyone's point. At my friend's last birthday sleepover, she got absolutely off her face and it came down to playing Truth or Dare, and every guy at that party kissed her without her really being aware of it. I looked at her and I said to myself, "That is never, ever, going to be me."

We do play drinking games such as I Never, and I was outvoted when I said, "We drink when we've done something", but everyone else (and everyone else is an idiot) said "No, we drink when we haven't done it". So there were a lot of drunk people. And don't you think for a second that I didn't rub the facts in their faces while they were nursing their hangovers. *chuckles*

I guess the image parents get of a sleepover is a group of girls in long nighties, their hair in curlers, watching movies and consuming copious amounts of popcorn and fizzy drinks. Not a booze fest.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 8:55pm
I don't understand your argument, abba, and it really doesn't hold water.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 9:53pm
I think abba is only 18 herself and lives in Australia where the drinking age is 18.
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