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out of control 15 year old
| Tue, 04-11-2006 - 5:31pm |
Our daughter is 15. My husband is her father. Shes so far out of control we don't know what to do. Sinse my sister moved here in the neighborhood 2 years ago, she has 4 kids but my daughter hangs out with 2 of them that are bad influences. Her attitude & mouth have changed drastically. She has a history of running away when things don't go her way. My mom & sister live down the street. She is very defiant & disobediant. Plus she has a huge attitude problem & uses profanity all the time. She has this I don't Fu**** care attitude I will do what ever I want when I want. She sneaks out at night after dark with her cousins & they hangout in groups in other peoples houses that we don't know. They apparently drink & smoke weed. I even found a condom in her laundry one day. She denies being sexually active. My mom takes her in every time & doesnt see that she is condoning her running away. Shes in trouble in school a lot also & has been suspended many times. The school called probation on her for verbally threatening a student & verbal abuse to the bus driver. She got suspended off the bus too. My husband & I want to have her stay with his brother & his 2 teen daughters & g/f that live 2 hours away. Were not saying forever but just for a few months. We think she needs to get away from my sisters kids. It would do her some good to be around a better influence. She says councling is stupid & refuses to go. We don't think it's wrong to make the choice but my sister thinks it is. Our daughter seems to think it's fine with her to stay there.

I think you need to keep her at home and work through the problems but, sadly, I have no brilliant suggestions as to how to do that
I think 'sending her away' will be seen as exactly that
Have you tried a family meeting? Pehaps your family will agree to try your plan if you set a time limit?
Like "lets try it my way for 6 weeks-that's all I ask"
Insist they send her home or call you to come get her anytime she runs to them for just the trial period
We live near no extended family and have no divorce between the two of us. There IS NOWHERE for our kids to run to or for us to debate sending them away to-I think thats a good thing in a lot of ways. We're stuck with each other LOL
Deb