Parents Of Sexually Active Teens Board To Go

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Parents Of Sexually Active Teens Board To Go
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Tue, 01-11-2011 - 7:53pm

I know I'm guilty of inactivity- I got sick again, oops:smileywink: but I'm really sorry to see the availability of this board go. I just looked to see if anything is going on over there and that message was it.

Ya'know, actually no, you probably don't...but I was a volunteer

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 7:53pm

This "Parent's Of Teens" forum seems to be more about behavior, angst, dealing with defiance, poor grades, and sometimes alot of good news! Do the majority of regulars feel comfortable with teen/sex questions here? And would a concerned and/or confused parent come looking, see stories about good grades (yay), broken curfew (boo) and feel ok asking if it's "normal" that their dating teen is masturbating?

I have been seriously considering stepping down as cl at PoSAT for some time now as I have way, way too much going on in my life and my life has moved beyond those issues for the most part.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-14-2011 - 8:59pm

I think your approach is pretty sensible.

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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 1:23am

This reply is OT, but I just wanted to mention how badly IVillage has deteriorated--especially since the change.

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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 2:03am

I just wanted to thank mom_itead_rinker for some of the points that were in her post. I told my husband about the central discreet place for condoms and we both decided that it is a really good idea and perhaps we will go with that in the future. The idea just hadn't occured to us.

I guess the expectation that they will have sex can be problematic too...I guess we are going off our own experiences in that department. The idea has given me something to chew over for a while. Its good to talk about this because its not something that you

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 1:52pm

I don't find this too far off topic, yes I think the loss of that board is directly in response to the loss of participating posters ALL OVER ivilliage. I know I said somewhere that I had been here several years ago but forgot my name (I got older:smileyvery-happy:) and had changed 'net service so couldn't get into that email to recover anything. I came back looking for that vibrant community that I'd missed so much...and found a shadow of it, and after the most recent changes not much of that shadow is left either.

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 4:59pm

You are welcome deearna.

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Registered: 04-16-2009
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 5:31pm

I would have to agree with you kjdill.

I joined these boards over 10 years ago, although my participation has varied over the years. Like you, I have changed my "handle" but honestly don't remember what it was. It had to do with coffee since the present name was during a period when I was talking a holiday from my drug of choice-coffee.

There use to be some interesting discussions. People would loss their tempers but it was honest, thought out discussions. Now we seem to be into the "twitter" level of discussions.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 6:44pm

OH WOW! I remember the "Troubled Teens" board! THAT was the one I talked about my middle girl on! She had WAY more issues than SA. I know I only have a few more years of teenhood, but where do parents go from here? I can't get into that whole TWITerer thing. If there's a serious issue, 140 characters just dosen't cut it!

It must be at least 7 years for me, when the 21yo was about 14. I really felt like **** when I commited her to a psyche hospital- but damn, like I told her- My obligation is to see you alive at adulthood, this is the only way I can do that with the choices you make.

Would I come to parent's of teens with that? No, I wouldn't.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 8:21pm
I've been away from ivillage for the last yr & was very shocked to find how many of the boards have gone. I joined about 7 yrs ago as I sat crying trying to figure out what I did wrong with my youngest DS and how to ensure we both survived his teens. I found the troubled teens board & frankly, I don't think I would have survived those terrible years without that board & all of the wonderful people who helped me. I see that a couple of you have posted here. I'm sorry that parents today don't have the special boards to go to that I had. I'm not really sure what it is about facebook as it looked boring to me.

Dee
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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 8:50pm

It is sad to see how many of the boards are gone. I didn't post on the Parents of Troubled Teens or Sexually Active Teens although I lurked there a bit (and looking back I probably should have posted on the SA board seeing as Justin was a father before he turned 20). It's also sad for me to see this board so slow now. Not sure if it's the new format or just that there are so many more ways to 'connect' than there were 13 years ago when I first stumbled on Parentsplace/Parentsoup. I'm a HUGE Facebook fanatic and have reconnected with so many people from high school friends to Ivillage friends to early childhood friends. But it doesn't have the discussion feel and the 'closeness' that I felt here at Ivillage for so many years. People on this board helped me through so many trying times with my boys and were there to share in their successes. And I, too, wish there was a board for parents of young adults here. Yes, Justin is in college but he's living at home going to the community college so it's not really the whole 'college experience'. And if he doesn't get his act together this semester he'll likely be working until he figures out what to do with his life. And Jason will be headed to med school but again - that won't be the typical 'parents of college kids' experience. To all of you that have been around for awhile and perhaps come out of lurkdom to post on this thread - so good to see you! If anyone does want to connect on Facebook shoot me an email or a private message. I'll still continue to come here even though I don't have any teens because this board has been so near and dear to my heart for so long.

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