Parents Of Sexually Active Teens Board To Go

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Parents Of Sexually Active Teens Board To Go
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Tue, 01-11-2011 - 7:53pm

I know I'm guilty of inactivity- I got sick again, oops:smileywink: but I'm really sorry to see the availability of this board go. I just looked to see if anything is going on over there and that message was it.

Ya'know, actually no, you probably don't...but I was a volunteer

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 9:06pm

I was on another board and the "regulars" ended up making our own private message board at Yahoo.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 7:40am
I'd hate to see this board go. I never posted on the other 2 boards either but in the last year have definitely had reason to on both accounts. I'm not big on FB: I hide anything on my wall as I just don't want others who I know IRL to know much - of some of the gory details in my life. I'm just private like that I guess. But coming to places like this has been a lifesaver for me so many times.

Sue
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 10:06am

What I've always like about iVillage is there is a certain amount of anonymity that is lacking in FB.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Mon, 01-17-2011 - 7:55am

Hi Dee:smileywink: You must have been there surviving your DS while I was surviving DD (at troubled teens). She had been a fairly "normal" very physically

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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 9:17pm
I really liked these boards as they gave me great support from people who could be objective because they didn't know me or my family personally. I won't want to post on facebook as I just use it to keep up on pictures of my grandson, my DD's son.

My DS is 24 and somewhere around 21/22 started to really grow up. He is 24 now, just engaged, works full time & goes to school part time. He dropped out of high school in grade 10. I'm thrilled that he is doing so well but there were wks/mths when he was 15 to 19 that I wondered if he would be alive the next day. TT really helped me stay sane. I agree that a "Parents of Stupid Young Parents" would be great. There was a board called something like independent kids that shut down a few yrs ago. It was great to help once they left the teen yrs & we needed to vent about their stupid decisions & also to brag about the great things they were doing. I have a 31 yr DD and a 28 DS too who were never TT but sure made some stupid decisions in their 20s. lol

Hopefully your DD will learn to be more consistent before your DGD is impacted too much. Does she live close to you? Do you spend much time with your DGD? Do you find it hard not to make comments on how your DD is raising her?

DS has spend a lot of time with our DGS and he was actually the trigger that starting DS growing up. Our DGS was almost 10 wks early and we came close to losing him several times in the first week. We were shocked at how supportive/involved DS was during those early weeks DGS spent in the hospital. He would be at the hospital when he wasn't working. Some days spending 7 hrs there, only to see the baby for 15/20 mins but to be there to watch over his sister.They are 7 yrs apart and were extremely close until he turn 16. He would take the bus for 2 hrs each way to DD's home just to watch the baby so DD could get a shower or rest for an hr. DS started spending more time with us as a family again. It was as if DGS made him realize how important family was.
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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 10:58pm

I might be needing the "Parents of Stupid Young Parents" board... I'd like to think DD and her fiance have it together enough to be good parents - but they'll be all of 20 y/o when their baby gets here in August (fiance turned 20 in December, DD will be 20 in July)... I'm sure they'll make mistakes, but they really WANT to be good parents, and I think if one is conscious of that, it's half the battle.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 8:06am

Yikes! I missed the announcement, Grandma. Congratulations!

I married and had children LATE, by 80's standards. It was difficult in that I always felt out of touch with the other parents who were so much younger than me, many having had their first child at 20 or 21.

So, while 20 is early by today's standards, it is an age where people became parents for generations and everything went just fine. They have a strong history together with strong parenting and pseudo parenting from you as well as some life experience(T)of what NOT to do.

It will be fine.

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Registered: 04-27-2000
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 12:08pm

Hello!

I hope you don't mind me jumping in, but I saw your thread about the board closure and wanted to talk with you about it further if you have some time.

Our initial plan was/is to open a folder on the Parents of Teens boards for sexually active teens, and we can do another one for troubled teens as well, but I see where a few of you mention that this option is not the best one. I'm very interested in hearing more about your concerns with this, and what you think we can do. Can you give me your feedback on the folders or other concerns about this?

Our goal is to have the communities available that you need. We don't want to close boards or remove a necessary community, but we also know that when someone visits a slow board, they aren't necessarily interested in posting because they don't see anyone there who will answer, and as a result, they don't post at all, so sometimes having a more active board with a relevant topic in which to place the folder still gives them the place to talk and a more active community. But, we know that doesn't help in all cases.

So, let me have it -- what would work best? I can't guarantee we can always do it, but we've got options here so let's figure out what works.

Thanks!

Donna

 



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Registered: 01-21-2008
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 1:20pm

Ooooh! Yes please, jump on in!

I think some of the slow down might be the format when we open that first page that has "Boards". TOO MANY clicks for a parent in crisis! I have a second window up as I speak, and nothing on that first click looks promising or teen specific. It has "Pregnancy and Parenting" with another click to "see all 34 boards". When we get there, it's kinda tough to see the "POT" board buried in age groups unless you already know where you're going. I have absolutely no answer for how to do this different. How could Parent's of Teens be highlighted to make newcomers aware that there are folders inside that might pertain to what they are looking for?

Also for a parent in crisis, Parents of Teens is pretty generic. Yes there have been some pretty intense discussions here, but they seemed to come from posters that have been here for awhile and knew they could. I honestly don't think alot of people will be comfortable coming in for the first time, and spit out that they have a promiscuous young teen, or a "cutter", or a potential scociopath and the seperate boards or maybe the folder idea gives the illusion of more privacy or at least the idea that other parents on those boards will have topic specific

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 8:36pm

I have been on the Teen board for years(boys are now 19-25) and any time I had a problem with the boys, I left to at least lurk on the Troubled Teen boards.