Prepare your teen for the job market!

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Prepare your teen for the job market!
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Fri, 09-09-2011 - 10:02pm

I should preface this by saying that at the moment I am incredibly unhappy with older teen/young 20-something employees that I supervise.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 6:53am

<< IF they are constantly pampered, it's just going to be a huge shock to find out that not everyone else is going to let them do whatever they want.>>

Precisely!

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 8:39am
The other scenario I'm hearing about is even if the student takes/passes the AP exam, the U usually still wants 6 or 9 or whatever hours in that specific subject, so they just start at a harder level - which for some is ok, but for others, first time away from home and trying to get acclimated to college life, it's disasterous.

Sue
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 8:42am
The problem with your 'unless' portion is a case in point with a friend of mine. She has 3 boys, 17-22 (ok, not so much boys anymore!) - two in college in pre-med, and 1 a HS senior looking to go into CS. Now they are all special needs of one kind or another, and mom has helped the entire way. They've also had no house chores or jobs (the older one has had small jobs at his U but not til college). She's now divorced and the youngest is at home (the others are in town at their U but stay on campus). She asked younger one to take care of the lawn; he opted out so she pays to have it done. Not sure what they'll be able to do for themselves once they are on their own...but then maybe with that background and those majors they'll be able to hire help all the time for everything...Even if they can, I see it as a disservice to at least not have taught them how to do the basics and have them take some pride in helping out with the family...

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 9:34am

A study done at UC Berkley by researchers Saul Geiser and Veronica Santelices... titled "The Role of Advanced Placement and Honors Courses in College Admissions," offers some sobering conclusions about the impact of AP courses on college bound students: Taking AP Classes May Not Improve College Performance

I think this all goes back to parents being involved and making good decisions. For my dds, AP classes were important, and I say that speaking as the parent of one child who didn't actually take the tests due to anxiety (however, the difficulty of the classes prepared her well). For the other, who took 7 AP classes and got 6 "5"s- she's now classified as a junior in her second year of college, and may graduate a whole year early (at least more likely to graduate on time). Now, that said, one of her roommates attended a small school in Indiana and right on the school improvement plan it lists as a goal having a student get a passing grade (3, 4 or 5) on one of their two offered AP exams. They have NEVER had a student get higher than a one or two- and the two classes are calculus and physics. Calculus has one of the highest passing grades of all the AP tests!

We chose not to force the girls to work during high school- dd21 for many reasons, and dd18 primarily because of her heavy work and extra-curricular load. But, she worked summers , she had chores,

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 12:36pm

I laugh at the fact that the kid was able to "opt out" at taking care of the lawn.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 12:56pm
MTE, but I guess she figures a year from now all will be out of the house so she'll just pay to have it done anyway. In a waaay different league than we are!
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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:43pm

I agree with much of what you write, Theresa.

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 2:59pm

And it should NOT matter if the parent is working or SAH. A SAHM should not be a slave either. That devalues SAH women, and it undermines the concept that families, teammates, jobmates, and communities should work TOGETHER, EVERYONE contributing toward the common good and goal. Plus, it's a miracle child who will develop a work ethic out of thin air, sitting on their six while they watch their parents do the housework

I couldn't agree more! It's bizarre to me how some women stay busy all day at home and yet, when their spouses and kids come home, the mom keeps working, but the dad and kids are "off." That would SO not fly in my house. Don't get me wrong- I will absolutely help the kids or dh if they are having a hard week (iron their clothes, pack a lunch, etc) but in general, there should never be one person, or two people, working, and the rest are relaxing. Our rule is that no one leaves the kitchen after dinner until it is clean. If it is too crowded in the kitchen, someone can run the vacuum, fold laundry, etc... but the general idea is that we're ALL contributing and ALL working at that time.

I want my girls and my boys to feel that they are making a positive contribution to the household.

Theresa

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 3:19pm

When I was first dating my exH, he was 22 and the youngest of 5 "kids" still living at home w/ mom & dad (the oldest was only a couple of years older since there were triplets in there).

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Mon, 09-12-2011 - 6:10pm

You were in the army & had your own apt, yet when you moved home, you still let your mom do your laundry?

LOL! When dd18 was talking to her bf and his mom about college (he just joined her at the same college) his mom said she was considering buying her son (dd's bf) the laundry service - this is not the one where you turn in your sheets, this is- drop off your laundry and it's magically washed and folded....even hand-laundered items.

Dd said, "I will lose all respect for you if you can't manage to do your own laundry!" He was embarrassed and they didn't end up buying it. Wow....it's sad that there's even a need for that. If you can't manage your own laundry in college, what will you do in life?