I don't have an answer for you, but I can certainly sympathize. Dd b/f is the same way. Although I have never seen any definite plans with girls, he can be a flirt. He just doesn't see anything wrong with the stuff he does, he says these girls are just friends and they are. He doesn't get that girls take things differently than guys do. What may seem innocent to them, may not be to the girls they are talking to.
But I know how maddening this can be. If dd says stuff about other guys even kidding around, he gets all upset, but he doesn't understand why she gets upset.
I have seen some things that I wanted to tell my dd, but always hold my tongue. She has to learn to handle him herself, they have been together for 3 years. Just like your dd, mine always says that she trusts him, they are talking about getting engaged.
If you would find a simple solution, I would love to hear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Putting all this in a more long term perspective from where this 65 year old sits, I don't even remember who I took to the prom in high school. This is all high school dating games. Rarely do these relationships continue after high school, especially if they go to different colleges. I would just keep teaching responsible dating lessons and coaching her through the daily dramas.
One final note: Check out these lyrics from a 1960's do-whap song:
M TOP - MOM... - Monotones Lyrics - Who Wrote The Book Of Love Lyrics
I wonder wonder who, oouu who Who wrote the book of love
Tell me, tell me, tell me Oh who wrote the book of love
I've got to know the answer Was it someone from above
I wonder wonder who, be-do-do who Who wrote the book of love
I, I love you darlin' Baby you know I do But I've got to see this book of love Find out why it's true
I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who Who wrote the book of love
Chorus:
Chapter one says the lover You lover her with all your heart
Chapter two you tell her You never, never, never, never, ever wanna part
In chapter three remember The meaning of romance
In chapter four you break up But you give her just one more chance
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who Who wrote the book of love
Baby, baby, baby I love you yes I do Well it says so in this book of love Are’s is the one that's true
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who Who wrote the book of love
(Chorus)
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who Who wrote the book of love
Baby, baby, baby I love you yes I do Well it says so in this book of love Are’s is the one that's true
I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who Who wrote the book of love
Are you sure you're not talking about my dd and her bf? They sound exactly alike! I'm kind of relieved. My dd is almost 17 and bf just turned 18, but he's a Senior this year and she's a Junior. They go to the same school and have been dating for 2 years.
With all this Facebook stuff you find out a lot of info. Bf has been hanging out with some other girls from a different high school along with some buddies. He doesn't get it that these girls don't just want to be friends. Our neighbor goes to the other hs and has told me that these girls like to get in the middle of other relationships.
Recently now I think dd is doing the same thing. She's been hanging out with her girlfriend and 2 other guys, just as "friends". Then they all have to post pictures of themselves with other people on Facebook!
Why do they do this? Such games. I've told dd to make sure she's careful with what she posts, because everyone can see it. I think she knows that and is trying to get back at her bf.
Whatever. It's hard to deal with this stuff, when one minute they're crying to you about their bf's and then they do the same thing.
Geez, I think they create their own drama on purpose.
I don't have an answer for you, but I can certainly sympathize. Dd b/f is the same way. Although I have never seen any definite plans with girls, he can be a flirt. He just doesn't see anything wrong with the stuff he does, he says these girls are just friends and they are. He doesn't get that girls take things differently than guys do. What may seem innocent to them, may not be to the girls they are talking to.
But I know how maddening this can be. If dd says stuff about other guys even kidding around, he gets all upset, but he doesn't understand why she gets upset.
I have seen some things that I wanted to tell my dd, but always hold my tongue. She has to learn to handle him herself, they have been together for 3 years. Just like your dd, mine always says that she trusts him, they are talking about getting engaged.
If you would find a simple solution, I would love to hear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Andie
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Edited 9/1/2007 2:04 pm ET by kel7col4
It sure seems like everything is magnified at this age, doesn't it?
Every look becomes a flirt, etc.
My boys didnt do the BF-GF thing until they were older and it really does seem to be different by then-calmer!
Hang on-it WILL get better
I think you hit it head on in your last sentance - he's 16.
Edited 9/1/2007 2:05 pm ET by kel7col4
Putting all this in a more long term perspective from where this 65 year old sits, I don't even remember who I took to the prom in high school. This is all high school dating games. Rarely do these relationships continue after high school, especially if they go to different colleges. I would just keep teaching responsible dating lessons and coaching her through the daily dramas.
One final note: Check out these lyrics from a 1960's do-whap song:
M TOP - MOM... - Monotones Lyrics - Who Wrote The Book Of Love Lyrics
I wonder wonder who, oouu who
Who wrote the book of love
Tell me, tell me, tell me
Oh who wrote the book of love
I've got to know the answer
Was it someone from above
I wonder wonder who, be-do-do who
Who wrote the book of love
I, I love you darlin'
Baby you know I do
But I've got to see this book of love
Find out why it's true
I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who
Who wrote the book of love
Chorus:
Chapter one says the lover
You lover her with all your heart
Chapter two you tell her
You never, never, never, never, ever wanna part
In chapter three remember
The meaning of romance
In chapter four you break up
But you give her just one more chance
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who
Who wrote the book of love
Baby, baby, baby
I love you yes I do
Well it says so in this book of love
Are’s is the one that's true
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who
Who wrote the book of love
(Chorus)
Oh I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who
Who wrote the book of love
Baby, baby, baby
I love you yes I do
Well it says so in this book of love
Are’s is the one that's true
I wonder wonder who, be-doooo who
Who wrote the book of love
I, wonder who, (Yeah) who wrote the book of love
Oh, yeah!
Jason
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Are you sure you're not talking about my dd and her bf? They sound exactly alike!
I'm kind of relieved. My dd is almost 17 and bf just turned 18, but he's a Senior this year and she's a Junior. They go to the same school and have been dating for 2 years.
With all this Facebook stuff you find out a lot of info. Bf has been hanging out with some other girls from a different high school along with some buddies. He doesn't get it that these girls don't just want to be friends. Our neighbor goes to the other hs and has told me that these girls like to get in the middle of other relationships.
Recently now I think dd is doing the same thing. She's been hanging out with her girlfriend and 2 other guys, just as "friends". Then they all have to post pictures of themselves with other people on Facebook!
Why do they do this? Such games. I've told dd to make sure she's careful with what she posts, because everyone can see it. I think she knows that and is trying to get back at her bf.
Whatever. It's hard to deal with this stuff, when one minute they're crying to you about their bf's and then they do the same thing.
Geez, I think they create their own drama on purpose.