prom

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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 12:38pm
Hi, I was wondering if you could give me some advice? I have soon to be 16 daughter ,she is a freshman,and a friend of hers at another school has asked her to the prom.i would be here transportation as we live an hour away.she really wants to go. i want her to go,but i friends telling me she should wait until it is her junior/senior prom. she would not get to go anywhere else except dinner and prom. the boy doesn't have his license,so i have know idea how he will get there. i hope you can understand my rambling. i lurke all the time ,and really like how you help each other out. thanks in advance!!
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In reply to: rhondaj3903
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 12:46pm

Hi and welcome to the board!

Pam
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: rhondaj3903
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 1:04pm

I too would let her go. Sounds like a very controlled situation and it could be a blast.

My dd also a freshman is supposed to go to another high school's prom. It's one of her best friend's step brother, a senior, and the "arrangement" was made last summer. I haven't heard much about it lately though.




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Registered: 10-16-1999
In reply to: rhondaj3903
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 1:24pm
I'd let DD go if you're comfortable with the boy she's going with. Every school has different policies, in our school, freshmen who attend prom get to do everything everyone else does, even if they go with another freshman. Heck, last year, my DD's "date" for prom was her best friend, they had a ball, stayed out all night at the school (our parent's organization does an awesome post-prom lock in at the school), and did everything that all the other kids were doing.
Rose
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Registered: 09-19-2004
In reply to: rhondaj3903
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 3:16pm
I really appreciate all of your responses. I have raised two boys now 21,but she is very different all the way around. i didn't have the boys attention like she does at this age,i was the heavy girl,everyones buddy. i want her go have fun ,but be careful,we live in the phoenix area,so she is exposed to alot more than i was in Indiana.i haven't let her go on any one on one dates yet,but this is a school thing and i have to be the transportation.I know my boys highschool had afterprom at the school,i don't know about this school. I know proms aren't held at school here way too many kids. we have had some trust issues,so i am trying to let her do some things again,only with me close. Thanks again,Rhonda
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Registered: 01-20-2005
In reply to: rhondaj3903
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 12:23pm
Personally, I see nothing wrong with her going, especially since they are not going to the afterparties and you are driving. I might caution her to remember her values while she is there. I would also watch the cost of the dress - you may have many, many more formals to purchase over the next few years.