Prom Opinion

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2001
Prom Opinion
17
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 12:01pm

Hello All,

I feel sort of silly asking a question about Prom when there are so many more important issues involving our young men and women!  Anyway...This is our DD's senior year of high school.  She invited a friend of hers who attends another high school to go with her and he said yes.  Being that it's HER senior prom, her dad and I are paying for a limo and for his ticket.  Now, what about dinner?  They want to go out before hand.  Should they maybe go 50/50 on this or is this maybe something he would pay for?

What would you suggest?

Thanks!

Lou

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
In reply to: ashmama
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 12:12pm

Prom dress shopping at my kids' high school has become a game to see who can find the best dress at a thrift store. They also host a prom dress swap (not well attended, because everyone wants a dress no one at their school has worn), but at least they are trying. 

At their previous school, it was all about labels, and to my jaded eye, it also appeared there was a contest for the sluttiest dress award. ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2001
In reply to: lou1616
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 4:27pm

Hi urtletime

It sounds as if your event is open to many more students and not as exclusive.  I think your DD could say, "John and I are going to the prom an thought it would be so much fun if you guys could come too. Tickets are $00.00 (whatever the price is) each.  Let me know if you'd like to come and I'll let you know when you need to have money in for tickets.  Its going to be much more fun if you guys come!".  Or something like that.

As far as my dd's prom.  Yeah, we're going to pay for dinner too.  We pretty much planned on it from the get   go but thought I'd ask anyway.  Thanks all!!!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2001
In reply to: lou1616
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 4:29pm

I like the idea of seeing who can get the best from the Thrift shop!  And yes, some of the prom dresses available were way too revealing for 17 year old girls!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 03-11-2013 - 10:27pm

For those of you with the BIG PROM (wedding) ahead, I heard on the fluff portion of the news that the average cost of a wedding is now above $28,000.

I think in terms of the wedding cost being what is spent for the items used up between the rehearsal dinner and the limo ride away from the church or other venue; things like the Invitations, rehearsal dinner, wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses, tuxedos, gifts to the bridesmaids and groomsmen, flowers, photographer, videographer, pictures, venue rent, cake, punch, dinner, if that is provided, gratuity to the minister, pianist, soloist, limo service, live musicians at the reception or a DJ, rice, etcetera.

However, that $28,000 may be the total economic impact, which would include wedding consultants, showers, wedding gifts, gifts between the bride and groom, engagement and wedding rings, hotels and airfare spent by out of town folks, the costs of the honeymoon, valium for the parents who are paying the tab, etcetera. That would sound more correct as those other items totaled up are BIG BUCKS.

For a mere million dollars, Bianca will come and sing at your wedding. And I would hope that she would not liqsync to a recording. LOL

Avatar for mahopac
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-1997
In reply to: mahopac
Tue, 03-12-2013 - 1:50pm

Great way of handling it!

Avatar for mahopac
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-1997
In reply to: mahopac
Tue, 03-12-2013 - 2:11pm

In general I do agree with the idea that parents shouldn't pay for things just because they can, and for the reasons you stated.

DD is looking forward to feeling like a princess - because, she said, it will be the only day she'll get to look like a princess until she gets married.  She is as un-princessy as you can imagine in her attitude toward life, but she does want to feel pretty in a pretty dress.  She will certainly not be the star of the show (she never avoids the limelight but it never seeks her either), but she can, for an evening, feel lovely in a dress she picked out.

I told her we would pay for her prom ticket, her outfit, and anything else normally associated with proms (no limos are permitted - the kids take a bus from the school to the catering hall and back again).  However, we won't pay for any weekend activities following it.  Not sure what those will be anyway, since prom will be on a Friday, she doesn't want to do the drunk-on-the-beach thing, and she has to be home for a concert on the Sunday afternoon.

Re weddings, several years ago, as my young colleagues were telling me that weddings cost a minimum of $25,000 these days, I added up the present-day cost of my VERY modest wedding from 1990 (buffet dinner with open bar, only 70 guests, modest dress & veil, etc.).  I was shocked that it came to $25,000!  I'm sure the present-day costs of my friends' more formal weddings with sit-down dinners, bagpipers, country club settings, etc. would be in the $50-100K range, though they were nothing like that 20 years ago.  It's no wonder that well-educated young people who expect to pay for their own weddings wait so long to get married - they want a wedding that is a credit to their families but it takes forever to save up for it.  Not to mention the $50K they need to put down on a house afterward. . . but now I am REALLY getting off the subject of prom!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
In reply to: ashmama
Tue, 03-12-2013 - 7:56pm

Oh, my DD thinks of herself as a princess, too. She's not a brat, but she loves the idea of dressing up in a gorgeous dress (or costume, like she wore to prom last year). She actually dresses up quite a bit for school. She doesn't wear make-up that often, but she likes nice dresses or skirts and pretty shoes. Her friends like to borrow her stuff and when there's a big presentation for a class, I'll see her bringing a bag full of stuff (hats, gloves, etc.) to lend out to people. 

My point was more about girls who think they have to have the latest designer dress because they are entitled to it. But there's nothing wrong with girls or boys who just want to look smashing.

Pages