"Racy" yearbook photo!

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"Racy" yearbook photo!
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 1:56pm

Did you read this story? http://www.torontosun.com/2012/01/10/teens-second-racy-photo-yanked-from-yearbook

I've got a daughter that just turned 17, and if this was me, I'd be telling her that her yearbook is not for self-expression. It's a yearbook. Mom needs to step up and be mom, and the daughter needs to seek her attention elsewhere and put that photo in a more appropriate place. A friend of mine thinks the girl is a 'tramp.' I think that's a strong word for someone who obviously needs better parenting and guidance.

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Registered: 02-07-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:06pm
What mother lets her daughter have these photos taken??? I read another article earlier where the mom said that her daughter is 18 and can do what she wants, but I bet the mom is paying the bill. I applaud the school for taking a stand, if she wouldn't be allowed to wear these outfits to class, than they shouldn't be allowed in the school book photo. You know she's doing all of this for the publicity, and both of them should be ashamed of their behaviors.

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:11pm

Ugh.

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Registered: 06-24-2010
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:13pm
abby2011 wrote:
You know she's doing all of this for the publicity, and both of them should be ashamed of their behaviors.

I blame the Kardashians (kidding...sort of).

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Registered: 10-21-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:13pm

I saw this, too.

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:13pm
The high school yearbook is no place for a photo like this. It just screams of someone seeking attention.

In the article it says: "I'm a senior in high school trying to express my rights and make a difference in not only my school, but everywhere else in the world."

I guess I'm confused about what kid off difference she is trying to make in her school (or in the world) by having a picture such as this published in her high school yearbook?
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:14pm

Where and how do you, as a school, draw the line though? If you're going to let students furnish their own photos, do start saying "Girls must have 80% of their skin covered. You can sit in X, Y, and Z pose, but legs must be crossed." and so on? That would be dumb. If that's the case, then revert to chest-up photos of the kids in their graduation gowns like it used to be.

Sure, I think the photo is completely inappropriate for a HS yearbook, but I think they'll get into legal trouble trying to judge what is and isn't appropriate. It's too much of a gray area.

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:15pm

at our school, your senior portraits can be whatever you like, but what you submit to the yearbook MUST be a traditional headshot in school dress code-compliant attire.

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:25pm

I'm 16 years out of HS (OMG!? When did that happen?!) but I honestly prefer how our school did it--traditional headshot portraits. Everyone wore the same "fake" top.

I call baloney on freedom of speech/expression. Is she allowed to wear those outfits to school? No? Then she's not allowed to have a photo in such an outfit in the yearbook.

And seriously - some moms really need to learn that PARENTING comes before FRIENDSHIP. Can you be friends with your kids? Sure. But at some point you need to step back and say "Ok, I know you like this photo and I think you look pretty in it, but it is not appropriate for a school yearbook."

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:42pm

That poor misguided girl! The school was perfectly right to yank the photo--the yearbook is not the place for that kind of self-expression. But honestly, I think revealing, slutty photos are so commonplace they've almost become banal. I can't tell trashy-looking girl #1 from trashy-looking girl #65. They all look the same after a while.

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 3:18pm
My 30yo high school teacher dd is the head of her school's yearbook committee. Producing a yearbook is complicated, big business, with strict rules for content made by the publishers, as well as the school. Yearbooks are often entered into competition, and no one wants to lose money, prestige, and possible scholarships for the kids on committee, by pushing the line of appropriateness. For this reason, at most schools NO ONE is allowed to furnish their own photos. Shoots are with approved photographers, who take approved poses, at preset appointment times. How this photo was even put into contention is a mystery to me, but the school was entirely within their right to yank it. After all, the school produces and pays for the printing of the yearbooks themselves, so they have every legal right to determine the content.

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