rape and incest in the family
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| Fri, 05-11-2007 - 1:12pm |
Hi new here. my name is dusty i am a proud parent of 4- boys and half pint on her way My anger began on march 1st 2007 when i walked in a caught my 13 teen yearold raping my 4 yearold boy .i became very outraged and instead of hitting i called the cops and had him arrested. for 21 days he was out of my home.in a detention center .when he was realesed he had to come back home if not i would get arrested for abandoment.. It has been very hard.
Then he couldnot deal with my anger. so he used this excuse that he was going to kill himself. i saw opp. to get him out of my home again. but before i could take him to the crisis center to have him baker acted. the kids had a doctor app. i needed to take my 7 yearold this day because of school. in thearpy with my 4 yearold he blurrted out that he was also forced to do certian acts on my 13 y old. the doctor called in another report. instead of arresting him the cops baker acted him.. he was baker acted for 8- days a normal baker act is 72 hours. my 13 y old was playing a game now. he knew he was going to be arrested when realesed. so he played the game..for 8 days. on the 8th day he was realesed not even 45 minutes later at my house the detictives where there questing him. he finally coped out and told the truth. he was arrested again this time 6 counts aggervi. battery. he went again for 21 more days for sure this time i knew they where not going to place him back in the home with the younger kids.But they did and they dropped the charges because they put pressure on my 4 and 7 y old to talk. they did not talk and charges are dropped this time around . but he does have 1 year of probation. and a lot of mental abuse counsling and pre preator counsling. my younger chldren are also in counsling.i am also.
but i need advise from people who are dealing with this ordeal i am so mad and ticked off at my 13 yold i can not stand to be around him give him anything. do for him nothing its like i died on the inside for this child i feel nothing for him.and i am scared of what this is doing to him and to me.i am not a hateful or judgemental person but i am doing it now and i am scared.
so what i am thinking of doing is trying to get a support group going in tampa florida for parents that are living my living hell right now.what do you all think and what should i do i am so mad i am boiling on the inside at my child. please help me with any suggestions and believe me i have done alot of home work and gotten alot of help out here but nothing does any good for him..
thank you.
mother in pain..

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THATS JUST IT EVERTHING YOU SAID THERE DONE IT THREATNED TRIED PUTTING A RESTRAING ORDER BUT WHERE HE IS A MINOR AND MY CHILD NO LUCK.
EVERYONE KNOWS WHO SHOULD AND THEN SOME. WHAT IT COMES DOWN TO THIS TYPE OF CRIME NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT AND THEY WANT TO HIDE IT. THIS IS SO PATHITIC I HAVE BEEN IN TOUCH WITH GOVERNERS THE HIGHER UPS AND ITS A CHAIN REACTION UNTIL I AM BACK DOWN TO THE OBIVIOUS THEY ALL SEEM CONCERNED BUT ARE THEY.
THEY FEEL FOR ME BUT DO THEY? THIS IS FLORIDA WE ARE THE CHILD ADOVACATE STATE WITH CHILD LAWS AND PROTECTION.
WELL HERE IS AN EXAMPLE FOR THEM. AND THEY ARE DOING NOTHING ABOUT IT. ITS A HUSH HUSH DEAL. ITS RAPE AND INCEST INSIDE OF THE FAMILY.
U TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT. THATS THE DEAL.
I AM NOT SETTLING FOR THAT THERE HAS TO BE MORE. FOR THESE BABIES AND IF THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY. AND I WILL FIND IT JUST TAKES TIME AND I KNOW MY BABIES DO NOT HAVE THAT AND I THINK THIS IS WHERE I GET SO ANGRY AT THE WORLD AND AT MY 13 Y/O.
YOUTH CAMPS AND OTHER PLACES DONT WANT HIM .THEY CAN NOT RUN THE RISK WITH HIM AROUND OTHER YOUTHS . IVE TRIED. BELIEVE ME. NO MATTER IF I PAY THEY STILL DO NOT WANT HIM.
INS I HAVE IT BUT SOME PLACES DONT EXECPT IT. 100. A WEEK IS GOOD. DOWN HERE ITS 1,500 A MONTH CASH FOR TREATMENT I CANT AFFORD THAT.THE INS TAKES ABOUT A YEAR TO QUIALFIE SO STILL I AM STILL SCREWED THE WAY YOU LOOK AT IT.
SO I HAVE SERIUOSLY BEEN THINKING ABOUT OPENING UP A SUPPORT GROUP FOR PARENTS LIKE ME WHERE WE CAN RANT AND TRY TO HEAL EACH OTHER, BECAUSE HERE THERE ARE NO SUCH GROUPS NOT EVEN WITH DOCTORS . WE AS PARENTS ARE ALSO VICTIMS. THE WHOLE FAMILY AT THAT EVERYONE IS EFFECTED BY IT.
U KNOW IF IT WAS ANOTHER FAMILY I MIGHT BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT A BIT BETTER BUT ITS MY FAMILY AND IT HAS COMPLETEY TORN ME UP.
THANKS DUSTY
NO BUT I HAVE SEEN HIM ON CABLE AND BOY HE GETS TO THE POINT . I SEEN THE DISCCUUSION BETWEEN HIM AND GERAOLD RIVERA I WILL GOGGLE HIM IN A MINUTE AND SEE WHERE I GET AND THANKS.
DUSTY
I AGREE I HAVE CONTACTED THE BAR ASS. THE FIRST TIME AROUND AND SHE DID SOME HUNTING AND CAME UP WITH THE SAME AS I NOT REALLY NO SENSE IN GETTING AN ATT. IF THE STATE IS NOT BEHIND YOU. I AM WORKING ON RESIDENTAIL PROGRAMS TAKES A YEAR.
I HAVE TRYIED GETTING INTOUCH WWITH MARK LUNSFORD FOR HELP AND DIRECTION PEOPLE JUST DONT HAVE TIME AND EXPERINCE WITH RAPE AND INCESET.
YES I KNOW HE IS GOING TO DO IT AGAIN ONCE A PRETOR ALWAYS A PRETOR.HE GOING TO KEEP GOING AND HURTING MORE PEOPLE UNTIL HE IS CAUGHT.
THE WORST PART ABOUT THIS IS THIS CHILD FEELS HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG AND HE IS THE VICTIM KNOW.. AND EVERY ONE TREATS HIM AS 1
DID WE SAY CHILD ADVOCATE STATE. WHERE?
THANKS
If you feel that strongly that he will molest/rape your children again, then he needs to be in the foster system.
Are you open to having him declared "abandoned"? You'll have to go to court and it will remain on your record for your lifetime. You have to completely sign away your rights, and your parenthood, to the state.
I've been doing a little research and I believe you can do that in your state. Have you checked that out? If so, what did they say?
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If you are truly at the end of your rope, and it sounds like you are, have you considered contacting your Senators/Congressmen?? They may be able to point you in the right direction.
Hugs - I really have no advice - what a situation to be in :(
YES I HAVE , AND I KNOW HE IS GOING TO RAPE THEM AGAIN INTIME.OR MAYBE KILL THEM BECAUSE HE HAS BEEN CAUGHT THERE IS NO TRUST IN HIM ANY MORE..
IF I AM TO ABONDAN HIM THREW THE COURTS I AM TAKING A RISK OF LOSING MY OTHER CHILDREN I HAVE TRIED AND I WAS COMPLTATING ON GETTING ARRESTED FOR ABONDAMENT THE 2ND TIME HE WAS ARRESTED.. BUT THAT DAY FEEL ON MY 7 Y/O B/DAY AND IT WOULD NOT OF BEEN RIGHT FOR HIM TO LIVE WITH THAT TYPE OF IMAGE SEEING ME BEING ARESTED ON HIS B/D
SO I HAD TO BRING HIM HOME AGAIN.
THANKS
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