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Reaction when child is suspended ?
| Thu, 09-21-2006 - 3:30pm |
Was wondering what you do (or would do) at home if your child was suspended from school. My 15 year old son got in a fight at noon hour yesterday off school property, and was suspended for the remainder of the day and today. First thing I told him was that he can't play his tv or video games, and that he'd have to use his time well (clean his room etc). I never used the word "grounded", but when his friend came to the door he was smart enough to say "Sorry Kyle - I got suspended today so I can't leave the house - I'll see you on Friday". (honestly I was somewhat impressed that he figured that out on his own without me telling him!). They didn't give him any work to do at home - so he'll have to catch up when he goes back on Friday. And I told him he can't go out etc. Friday or on the weekend until he is done whatever he missed. Now, I know some parents don't do any of this...as a teacher I have seen kids get suspended and basically lay on the couch watching TV while mom serves them sandwiches. On the other hand, I suppose some people would go for MORE punishment than this. This is my first time on THIS side of a suspension, so I wanted opinions ;-)

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This is actually one of my pet peeves - I don't know what it is about this area, but these kids get suspended/expelled in amazing numbers, yet these same kids are on the computer, the phone, at the game, etc. These are kids that are suspended for bomb threats, stealing over 1000 laptops from the school, multiple fighting incidents, threatening teachers, etc
There is one girl dd knows that has been suspended 5 times in the last year - 5 Times!!! The first time she ended up spending the night at my house half way through her suspension - I was dumbfounded.
Anyway, I got off on a tangent...I have no idea what I would do if either of my kids were suspended. I guess it would depend on the circumstances. If they were defending themself, I probably wouldn't have too much to add to the suspension, but if it were extreme circumstances there would be heck to pay....
In general, I think a first offense(and I would include first suspension in that) does not warrant added punishment at home
But..I dont feel you 'added' punishment-that would be something like grounding him for the weekend whether his work was done or not. You enforced what I assume was the 'spirit' of the suspension and added the expected logical consequence of taking the time to make up the missed work
Personally I like the way you handled it !
Edited 9/25/2006 3:49 pm ET by mom2morgan
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