Relationships for Dummies?

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Relationships for Dummies?
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 5:57pm

I ended up coming up with one idea for Christmas for dd - it's the book Relationships for Dummies.




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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 10:36am

As usual I am the odd parent out on this...

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 10:53am

Cheryl, I agree with you. Those are my thoughts too. I was reluctant to post because I don't have a sexually active teen (yet). But I think that even if I did, I wouldn't want to appear to be condoning it. Doesn't this kind of fall into a similar category as allowing your kids to have sex in your house (as long as they're doing it anyway....)?

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 11:21am

I wish I would have posted this on the appropriate board.




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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 12:37pm

You shouldnt feel bad about posting it here!

After all, both sides of the argument are already running through your head, right?

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:00pm
I hope my response didn't offend you in any way. I have never seen the book & I have never been in that situation. You know your own DD. I was just speaking hypothetically. I know you would never intentionally give your DD a sex "how-to" book! I think you're the only one who can judge what's appropriate for your DD. Can't beat that motherly gut-instinct!!
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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:18pm

I am not offended, and if I were, it would not be from your posts or your responses to me.

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:43pm

Well, we could use the traffic on the other board! ;)


If I had read this post 2 years ago, before I had a SA DD, I probably would have agreed with ej and Cheryl.

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 2:09pm

Kim, I think it's a good idea. You've stated to your dd that you're not condoning SA, however, the reality is she and her bf have been sexually active and there are a lot of areas in their relationship that this book may benefit - not ONLY the sex part!


I read some reviews on some books out there and the one *I think* you referenced sounded like a reasonable book. I hate that we as parents have to be so involved in our kids' sex lives. Don't you? I mean, my parents were not privvy to anything I was doing at 16! Not that lack of communication was a good thing, but in the case of MY mother, it certainly was. Haha.


Enjoy the holiday - Merry Christmas!

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 6:35pm

Kel7col4 Quote: "BUT FOR the whole sex stuff.

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 6:57pm

Recognize that sexuality is normal in adolescent relationships.


So true candledance.