I don't have experience here, but IMHO moving in the middle of the school year could be difficult. A 16yo (Junior in HS?) would have a hard time picking up in the middle of the school year in a new school. Socially, too, this would be hard. The 10yo might do better, mostly because the stakes aren't as high academically, and it's easier for younger kids to make friends.
But, since you asked, if there's a way to avoid moving them mid-year, I'd take it. But if there's no choice, then do it and help them work through it. If you're happy (and Dad's happy), they'll figure out a way to make it work.
both of you have been helpful. I did forget about the summer job. He would be able to make friends working I bet. But...Julie, you make a lot of since too.
I think this is something you need to discuss with the kids, get their take on it. All kids are different. I've never moved my kids mid year, but for the wrong reasons...I made my decision from my own point of view, I was a shy, insecure kid and moving would have been a terror for me. Some kids actually thrive on new adventures and being the new kid in town. I suppose from a scholastic point of view it's best not to move them until summer if it's at all doable.
We did have to relocate our kids from the Midwest to the East Coast, but mine were younger at the time (7 and 9). I waited until the end of the school year, but I wouldn't do that again. They didn't have anyone around to play with all summer. You always think there will be kids around in the neighborhood, but kids are so scheduled these days, they never seem to just have time to hang out and play. They did meet a couple of neighborhood kids, but nothing really started to click for them until school started. I've always said that if I had to do it over again, I'd move in mid-year so at least they'd make some friends before the summer started. Now, things may be different when your kids are older, but from my experience, it's even harder to find teens just hanging out during the summer months!
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I don't have experience here, but IMHO moving in the middle of the school year could be difficult. A 16yo (Junior in HS?) would have a hard time picking up in the middle of the school year in a new school. Socially, too, this would be hard. The 10yo might do better, mostly because the stakes aren't as high academically, and it's easier for younger kids to make friends.
But, since you asked, if there's a way to avoid moving them mid-year, I'd take it. But if there's no choice, then do it and help them work through it. If you're happy (and Dad's happy), they'll figure out a way to make it work.
Sue, mom to Leah and Seth
Thank you for replying.
I've never had to move my kids, so take this with a grain of salt...
I would be more inclined to move them over Christmas break.
We moved 4.5 months ago from California to Colorado.
both of you have been helpful. I did forget about the summer job. He would be able to make friends working I bet. But...Julie, you make a lot of since too.
We had to move across the country a few years ago with a DS in 6th grade and a DS in 10th grade.
We did have to relocate our kids from the Midwest to the East Coast, but mine were younger at the time (7 and 9). I waited until the end of the school year, but I wouldn't do that again. They didn't have anyone around to play with all summer. You always think there will be kids around in the neighborhood, but kids are so scheduled these days, they never seem to just have time to hang out and play. They did meet a couple of neighborhood kids, but nothing really started to click for them until school started. I've always said that if I had to do it over again, I'd move in mid-year so at least they'd make some friends before the summer started. Now, things may be different when your kids are older, but from my experience, it's even harder to find teens just hanging out during the summer months!
When we moved to a new state, we opted for a move in the middle of a school vacation week.
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