Repeat punishment??
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| Thu, 03-02-2006 - 3:06pm |
I am at a loss, I just do not know how to match the punishment to the crime.
My DD has trouble waking up (getting ready)for school every morning. It is a constant battle to get to school on time, and I drive her! She has been tardy so much that she has a contract with the school now, where if she keeps it up we go to court.
What do you suggest is a good punishment or idea of how to get rid of this nasty habit.
So far I have taken away every single thing when she is late (computer, phone, tv, i-pod etc) I say for 7 days but normally only do 2 or so. Sometimes I feel it is too much, but other times, I wish she would see it as its too much and not do it again.
Also the talking back and demanding to get reasons for punishment, decisions etc is getting to me... I try to stay calm...but usually end up yelling. I am afraid one of these days I am going to have a breakdown. She has said she hates me more than 3 times in the past 2 mos. Claims that I am hurting her by not understanding etc. I just need help.
On another note, last semester she brought home and F in science, And 2 D's Algebra & English all academics... What to do?? Any input is appreciated.

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When my DD14 was younger, I got her up early enough so that she had plenty of time to eat, dress, etc. I allowed her to watch TV in the morning, which is a good natural timer (each show is 30 minutes). I had plenty of friends who let their kids sleep later, NEVER allowed TV, but rushed around to get to school on time. For us, the early waking was always worth the more relaxing prep time.
DD now does this on her own. She has to leave the house at 6:50 to get to school on time. She sets her alarm for 5:40. My DH asked why it has to go off so early, and she says "I like having enough time".
So, I guess one part of my advice would be to wake her earlier (and probably getting her to bed earlier makes sense too).
DD also travels to school with DH (similar to julie's story). He gets very impatient if she keeps him waiting. She'd rather avoid that lol! Some mornings, she's even waiting for him!
I like the advice given of saying "we're leaing at X o'clock no matter what". I guess I would also work with her to figure out how much time she realistically needs, and count back from there. That's how my DD came up with 5:40 as her wake up time.
Sue
Thanks for all the advice. I appreciate all the responses... Wish me luck...as for going to the dad, we are divorced... her and I are the only ones in the am, SO leaves by 6:00 am. I have asked Dad to talk to her but I think it becomes a mute point with her, like he is never really around ...who is he to tell me what to do...kind of thing... Anyways in our marriage he was just like her so I guess there isnt much to do on that point.
Thanks again...
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