Romantic Relationships/Dating

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Registered: 10-04-2003
Romantic Relationships/Dating
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Wed, 10-22-2003 - 5:50pm
I have a 14 year old son who is starting to expess interest in dating...His mom and I both feel this is too soon...especially for J, who is socially immature for his age...How do you decide when your teens are ready to date??? What kind of ground rules do you have?? Do you change the rules with age?? Our older son..18 has just begun dating in the past year...he participated in supervised "mixed" activities...but really didn't date...so J's early interest is new to us...Your advice/input would be appreciated...thanks
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 10-22-2003 - 6:07pm
In the traditional sense, I think 14 is too young for dating. The mixed group activities your older son enjoyed would be so much more appropriate in my opinion. We have always adapted our expectations of our kids by their age, one curfew for Jr. High, one for HS, one for 18 y/o high school students, and now that my two older boys are 19, there are a different set of expectations. Right now our 19 y/os pretty much come and go as they please but are expected to let us know if they won't be home for supper or for the night, our 16 y/o DS is expected home at 10 on weeknights, midnight on weekends and only double dating, and our 12 y/o DD has an 8/10 p.m. curfew and only group activities with the boys. She's been around boys all her life though, and is much more comfortable with the boys than girls, so she tends to have mostly boy friends...which has my DH nervous for when she gets older. For now she just has crushes that last about 2 weeks each.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 10-22-2003 - 10:38pm
Here's our dating 'guidelines' - our boys are 13 and 16.


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