Safety v/s Fulfillment
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| Tue, 11-28-2006 - 9:55am |
I have a question. I know most parents would prefer their teens not have sex. But when we choose too anyhow, do you prefer that we have enjoyable and fulfilling sexual encounters or awkwardness and disenchantment?
I feel pretty lucky because I know my mom only cares about my safety. A lot of my friends seem to have parents who give very mixed messages. My favorite is, "Sex is something special," but then the only place their teens can find to have sex is in the back of a car! (IMHO that so very unromantic and uncomfortable). I even knew one girl who lost her virginity in a movie theater restroom.
I would say all parents want their kids safe i.e. no pregnancy or STDs. But how do you personally feel about your son or daughter being sexually satisfied?
Holley

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Yea, there are so many things that go on behind closed doors, rich or poor does not matter. I too work with the court system. One example I have in a criminal case we had, a lady's boyfriend was have sex with her daughter from the time she was about 10-11 y/o (it has been a while ago, can't remember exact age) until she was 14 y/o or so. The mom knew about it but did nothing but look the other way and defend the boyfriend. Well, we have had more than one of those cases, and yes in a small town too.
I know of something else going on in our small town, in a very small school, nothing criminal brought up yet though. A coach has been having an affair with a 15-16 y/o student and when the mother was questioned, she didn't think anything was wrong with it. The girl is going to try to graduate early, just so she and the coach can be together, move away to his hometown. And I KNOW this mother!! I am in a position that I think criminal & cps charges should be brought up, but it is the school's job to instigate it.
Holley may be making alot of things up, but then again, she may not be.
Sue,
You're not the only one who think that...
I'm with you ladies, I don't doubt the abuse that OP talks about is real, I've seen too many much worse stories in my 25 years of health care.
Wow, Rose, you are quite adventurous. I'm blushing. I'm one who thought this thread might be a farce, not because I couldn't believe someone was abused that way, but just the nature of a teen coming on this board and feeling so comfortable dropping this kind of bomb among total strangers. The "my mom is a doctor and can stitch us up" was a red flag for me. But I concede I ***could*** be wrong.
This thread has become almost comical in some ways and I think you all have made great and insightful points. Maybe the OP sees things in a different light now. Maybe she understands that in the same way she might not like to overhear (or even think about) her parents "making whoopee" in the next room, the same might be true for some parents about their own kids (athough apparently not her own, but that is the least of her problems). Just the nature of the post imo speaks volumes about maturity level.
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