Same college, bad idea?
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|Sun, 09-19-2010 - 5:09pm|
I went to the same university as my brother. HUGE mistake. But the relationship there was very dysfunctional and my brother was a big bully and caused me troubles the entire time.
My son has 2 colleges that are his top picks, one being his top pick and the other being his 2nd choice. My daughter has lots of colleges and universities on her list. My son, who is very smart, but has some special needs (ok, autism spectrum disorder), he needs a college that is a very good fit for him. I am concerned about his future and his ability to get through things. In the meantime, my daughter could do well anywhere.
The 2 top schools on my son's list are ones that I would love to see my daughter go to also. But I am unsure if that is a bad idea. They are in half their classes together at high school as it is, which has caused a little bit of problem. They are a little like Bart and Lisa Simpson. DD plays by the rules and works hard and gets good grades while DS thinks it is fun to goof off and be attention seeking and such.
My daughter has come to me lately and has said she likes these 2 particular schools, but does not think she wants to be at the same college as her brother. Same high school with same classes has been enough. I am thinking that in 3 years from now, they will be happy to have familiar faces around. But I do not know how to advise her as the situation with my brother was so dysfunctional. I do not want my DD to go through what I went through in college (I ended up having to transfer over it too) but I also think that these 2 colleges are excellent choices. They happen to be a few states away from each other. So, I am concerned about having 2 kids in college at the same time, so far away from each other. Maybe I should not worry. I know some of you have had 2 in college at the same time. I also am thinking some of you were in college at the same time as your siblings. So I would love some of the experienced wisdom filled advice here! Thanks!!