SCARED

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SCARED
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 1:40pm

I know it has been a little while since I have been here. Trying to keep myself busy, so as to not dwell on the situation.

I Have returned in hopes you all could help in support and prayers.

A little back ground ; I am a sahm who works on the computer. I have 2 teenage dd's and a 4yr ds. and a dh of 19 years . (all of whom seem to think mom is there maid ,taxi, and atm) I have had numerous surgeries, and more to come.

I am feeling realy scared at this point. I have had all the tests at the mayo clinic and the were to call me with what they found. instead of a call from the nurse , I received a call from the pre opperation doc. and wanted me in this morning to discuss what are options are. she said,"we need to remove 1/2 of your pancrease and all of your spleen. there is a chance that the operation could cause a leakage in the pancrease with multiple complications , you also may become diabetic . we will also be doing exploritory on your colon to find out why it is producing gas and forcing it back up into the intestines.

This is the first time I have been in fear before a surgery . I understand they are known to be the best of the best , but I cant help but think I need to get things in order before hand.

I could go on about how the kids and dh are reacting , but that only makes me angry.

surgery is in 2 weeks .

please say a little prayer

Dee

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ckcmommy
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 2:40pm

{{{Dee}}} I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers that everything goes well without complications.

I really think that you need to stop worrying about doing everything, or what your family will think if you do stop doing everything for them. It's thier turn to step up to the plate and take care of you. Your teenage dd's should certainly be capable of going food shopping and preparing some meals. Perhaps you could create a menu for the week with them and make a list. Then have H take them or drop them off to do the shopping. With some minimal supervision, have them prepare the meals all week, taking turns or helping each other. They should also be doing a bulk of the housework and help care for thier little brother. And where is H in all this? During times of difficulty it is even more important for families to pull together for one another and H should know this.

Dee, you need to think only of yourself right now and no one else. Without guilt or anger, you need to go on strike...at a time like this nothing else matters but caring for yourself and preparing for your surgery and recovery. Can you do that? Can you ask your Dr about perhaps seeing if you can get some home care assistance following the surgery? Sometimes if it comes from the DR, your insurance will cover the cost.

Hugs and best of luck.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ckcmommy
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 4:57pm

Dee, I'll add you to my prayers.

And I second everything that h&r said in her post. She is spot on with her advice.