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School Took DD for Pregnancy Test...
| Mon, 05-28-2007 - 3:41pm |
Hello! I need a second opinion here. We just found out Friday that my 14 year old daughter had gone to the school nurse with a story about sneaking out of the house and going to a party. She said that someone had slipped something into her drink and she woke up with no clothes on and believes she had been raped by a 15 yr. old boy. I guess this had happened in March and she was afraid she was pregnant. The school arranged for her and a friend to go down to Public Health for a pregnancy test, which was negative. My husband is furious!! He is wanting to press charges against the school and have the school nurse fired. I don't know... I know the nurse, just not personally. I would hate to be the cause of her losing her job, but I don't believe she handled the situation in the right way. Shouldn't we, as parents have been notified? We ended up finding all of this out Fri. from dd's counselor. I had received a release in the mail from the nurse wanting to correspond with the counselor so I signed the release. All of the above had already taken place though. What are your feelings on this situation? Was the school in the wrong, or are we just overreacting? Oh, and I guess what happened with dd is that she has been sneaking out and having consensual sex but panicked when she thought she was pregnant so made up the story. But that is another subject...

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Could be...
National
Of 9th Grade students 34% are Sexually Active
Of 10th Grade students 42% are Sexually Active
Of 11th Grade students 51% are Sexually Active
Of 12th Grade students 63% are Sexually Active
16th would be the 11th grade correct?
Most of DD's friends have turned 16 this school year, in the 10th grade.
Working with battered families is going to give you a skewed sample.
Working with battered families may leave one with the impression that such things happen more often than they do, but on the other hand, one never knows what goes on behind closed doors in someone else's family either.
"But in the case of high school kids who have been seeing each other for awhile, I still stick by my guns, even if we're talking about a freshman and a senior... there is no need to ruin a boy's life because he made the dumb mistake of having sex with his freshman g/f. As a freshman last year, my DD dated a senior for awhile. They weren't sexually active, but if they had been, it still wouldn't have made me call the police. Even though he was 3 years older, he was about at the same maturity level as she was."
I totally agree. If both kids are in high school and it was consensual, then there should be no legal ramifications. I've talked to DS (16) several times about the heat of the moment and not making bad decisions, but I do realize that it is a possibility. That's why I've also talked about safety and condom usage if he does make that "mistake." But now I'm worried about the legal issues. Since he's 16 and his GF is 15, then he could theoretically be charged with rape. That's a really scary thought since we all know their heads are in the wrong place right now. Also the 15 year old (darling girl that she is) is very mature and has him "whipped." Oh, isn't being a parent fun.
Lisa
The key word is "theoretically."
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