Second suspension for fighting!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Second suspension for fighting!
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 7:43am
I'm so frustrated. This happened about a month ago, and I handled it really proactively and was patting myself on the back, and now it's happened again (and this time he got a longer suspension - 3 days). He got in another scuffle - this time right in the school hallway. I guess this kid, D, (a former friend) came up to him and said that he wanted to fight him, after school somewhere. So my kid, A, right then and there decides to shove him to the ground and punch him about 4 times. D chose not to punch back (and frankly, I think he could have cleaned A's clock if he wanted to!). Anyway, what the heck do I do to get this to stop? This is new behaviour for him, but it's the third time in two months. It is because he's been bullied and ostracized most of the way through school, and has now decided in his own mind that he's "not going to take it anymore". He even tried telling me that he did it for MY sake (because I've never liked D and won't allow him around my house). Obviously his thinking is just "off", but I can't get him to see that. Is the solution to help him find some other, socially appropriate, way to stand up for himself? If so, how - and on a side note, he's just joined the wrestling team. I was THRILLED since he's never done anything extra-curricular and I hoped this would give him something to do and help him make some friends. But, uh...is wrestling a good sport for him, if he's already starting to show agression through fighting?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 10:32am

I forget who does and doesnt have that dx here!

Is he on meds? Could they need an adjustment with puberty?

With ADHD, exercise surely will help. Another option would be a job. I think the busier these kids are the better(and a physical job would be most desirable)

I know that isnt an immediate solution but it might help in the long run

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 1:09pm
No, he's not on any meds - and yes, he does have a job :-)

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