Senior moving out for the summer

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Senior moving out for the summer
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Wed, 04-26-2006 - 1:00pm

My son casually mentioned at dinner that he would be moving into his friend Mike's apartment this summer

After picking my jaw up off the table, and glaring at the 14 yr old for going "YEAH", I asked about finances

He has thought it through although there isnt a lot to think through

There were two brothers attending the local university and the older is graduating and moving to another state for his new job. Second brother who is Mike, my sons friend, will keep the apartment and its a 12 mo lease so my son is going to take the extra bedroom. All he will have to pay is food since Mikes parents will pay everything else(or so Im told)

I have mixed feelings. I knew he was leaving in the fall for a state college several hours away but I was not prepared for anything this soon. He is 18 and does lifeguard all summer making decent wages so theres no question he can carry food and gasoline.

He is my challenging child and I also feel downright guilty that, at some level, I'm sighing with relief. He charms the pants off most adults but is less than charming at home and downright nasty to the 14 yr old. Said 14 yr old was devastated when the oldest moved out; I had to go to school and talk to teachers because he took it so hard; they were close. This brother, the 14 yr old will surely help out the door with a big grin

I dont know-these parents who cant get their 25 year olds out the door are starting to look appealing. It's really getting down there in family numbers around here

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Wed, 04-26-2006 - 2:43pm

{{{windrush}}}

I have no idea how I would feel if my 18dd (also a senior headed to college in the fall) decided to move out earlier than expected. I can only imagine I'd be devastated. How, if it were my 'challenging' (as you say) 16dd, I'd probably be a real mess, but she's only 16 now, so who knows? Maybe when she's 18 I will be jumping for joy! I somehow doubt that.

I hope you're able to deal with this transition okay and I hope your son is able to make good on choices. It's not as easy to be on their own as they think it is....

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Wed, 04-26-2006 - 8:31pm

I'm sure this is hard for you (and can't imagine how I'll be when dd14 is ready to move out), but it also sounds like a good transition for him. A chance to try out independent living, without the pressure of college. Also, maybe he'll be nicer to you all when he's not living under the same roof!

(((HUGS)))

Sue

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 04-26-2006 - 11:43pm

I imagine he'll be hanging around the house more than you may think ... and he'll bring his dirty laundry with him and be looking for a home-cooked meal! {{{hugs}}}

Julie

 

 

 

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 04-27-2006 - 9:15am
I totally understand. Our last one will be leaving home in August and it will be just me and DH. That should be interesting! I would give anything for oldest to move back home after graduate school. She could have the whole upstairs to herself. I would even remodel and give her an outside entrance and put in a kitchen for her. Heck, I would just be happy if she moved on this side of the Mississippi river!! Right now she's 2300 miles away. The one good thing about youngest DD's current b/f is that at least he's from here so she won't go all over the country with him!