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Sex at school??
| Fri, 10-06-2006 - 1:28pm |
I am new here.. and desperate for answers. My 13yr dd is a good student, active, friendly and social. However, I've recently made a shocking discovery that made me sick. I found a terribly graphic note written to her by a boy ( I later found out is a troubled boy with LOTS of issues) that was basically angry at her for not meeting him for sex at school! It goes on to say that she needs to make it up to him.. and let him feel up her skirt later that day! I'm sick.. I went to her and she said this boy was a friend, but she didn't want to do it and didn't. She denied everything and said she'd handle it and tell him to leave her alone. I couldn't let it go and went to the school counselor. I felt he was using intimidation (bullying) to get her to do this! Well, the counselor called and said that they investigated and that there are rumors that many things between them HAVE occured at school! Some kids even said my dd told kids it did. I'm totally sick. She says that there are rumors that popular girls at school do things. It sounds like some twisted way of social acceptance to at least 'say' you are doing things. I was already on her every move, now I'm REALLY watching her. I can't even believe this and never dreamed it would be 'my' dd. Please help.

I also don't understand this type of "investigation". How do you know he didn't ask kids that dislike your dd? He should have also talked to her about these concerns. I do hope that you have confronted her about this - but it's going to be difficult for you, as a mom, to tell her that you believe the "rumours" but don't believe her. Still, it needs to come out in the open somehow. Phrase it in a way that doesn't sound like you are attacking her, or that you believe she and not the others, are the ones that are lying. Keep a tight leash on her, for certain - she is only 13!
One thing that always amazes me are parents who don't believe that their popular, good grades-achieving kid could ever do anything wrong. Beware, these kids are often the worst of the bunch! They've become adept and tricking adults and telling them exactly what they want to hear. Someone here once called them the "Eddie Haskell" types, from Leave it to Beaver.
I do think sex in the schools happens. As much as we expect that our kids be protected from violence in the schools, we should demand that they be protected from sex in the schools!
Still, as with the school shooting incidents, where there is a will there is a way.
Terry