She lied...and I am so angry and sick...
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| Wed, 08-01-2007 - 4:17pm |
DD is 17. She is a very good student, athlete, and basically all-around nice kid. We are fortunate that she has given us very little trouble. We have seen little of her this summer because she has two jobs. Last weekend, for the first time all summer, she had the whole weekend off. She asked us if she could go shopping to an outlet mall a couple of hours away and then stay overnight with her girlfriend. I dropped her off at her friend's house at noon on Saturday and they returned to our house about 10 the next morning. From everything I heard, they went shopping together.
I found out today that not only did she not go shopping, she wasn't with her friend. She was in a completely different town with different people. I don't even know who these people are. I don't know where she stayed. She does not know yet that I know she lied. I am just sick.
What am I supposed to do?
Julie

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%% I would be upset though...She can't be allowed to do this naturally...but I think understanding, communication and coming to a meeting of the minds is the way to go. Others are hard liners though. Good Luck--let me know how it goes if you can.
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Julie,
Props to you! You handled that very well.
This forum is one of the gifts of the Internet Age. Where else can a parent with a delema get instant feedback from such a talent pool of experience to be able to figure out how to deal with her DD before she gets home from work that night?
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I think my DS17 may have used 3=way calling to snow me on that landline thing. EIther he raced home from the convenience store and called me to show me there were in on time, or he had the brother of the friend use 3 way calling. I think he could dial my son's phone and mine from the landline, and then I'd talk to my son, but only the house phone showed on caller ID. EiIther that, or he really did race home to the friend's to call me, and then left there after calling me, only to stay out until 3 am and ignore many many many phone calls and texts asking him where the HE&& was he and telling him to call me. (I had driven by and knew his car wasn't there..I just knew somehow that this was the night to check) Now I just feel ill and like crying and this new behavior and this dishonest, disrespectful side of him.
He has lost his car keys and phone until we feel like it.
He has ruined our vacation for next week as it will be all tension all the time. Now we trust him less...and we're supposed to let him wander around Myrtle Beach..until what hour??? Dad says he can come in when we come in. It will so fun, NOT.
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