She's Decided To Leave Home

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Registered: 06-27-2006
She's Decided To Leave Home
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 11:52am
Kristen and I got into a 'heated' discussion on Friday, and she informed me that she wants to go to a Maternity Home. She told me it wasn't my situation or my business to know anything about the pregnancy. So, she filled out the forms for admission into a pretty structured home East of here and we faxed it to them. I haven't heard anything back yet. I'm very very sad that she doesn't trust me enough to help her. I know it is human nature to push away the people we love the most, but I feel so strongly that if she chooses adoption, the other family will view her as a promiscuous(to put it nicely) teen who gave away their baby.

Oh, and I'm going for counseling in the morning. I need someone to talk to as well. My other kiddos and DH are suffering because of this. Just keep us in your prayers through this, please.





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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 12:17pm

{{{{dana}}}}

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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:02pm

Awww I'm sorry. I truly hope she gets in though. They will strongly support adoption as her option/choice. It will also reduce the pressure on the rest of your household, of course I'm sure it's always worse for us moms (or custodial dads too), but everybody must be stressed to some degree.



Many prayers to all of you.

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:12pm

Dana, when I read your title I was 'afraid'.

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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:13pm
Thank you so much.





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Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:14pm
Thank you so much. It is so hard on all of us. My poor 7 year old told her last night "I don't want you to go anywhere, Missy" He misses his sister all ready, but honestly, she hasn't been 'here' for months.





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Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:18pm
I should have titled it differently, but thanks for your concern. I think the same thing. I know it is the right thing to do, it's really hard. She keeps telling everyone that I'm basically kicking her out, but she and I know the truth. I'm doing it because I love her and I want what's best for the baby, and my baby.
I am so glad I found you guys! Such support and advice!





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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 1:40pm

Yes, you know the truth.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 2:35pm

Thank you so much, Cheryl. It was actually the Youth Director at church. She had information on a home that was specifically for mom's that chose adoption. That is why I chose this other home. It is a 'safe place' for her to make the decision.

I agree that I'm going to have to have an answer (even tho I shouldn't have to explain what goes on in my house) and I do like yours.





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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 09-20-2010 - 3:05pm
Sadly people ask things that are none of their business.
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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 3:54pm
Received a call from the school counselor and she met with Kristen about it, and she says Kristen is really positive about it.She also had the name of another place that would be slightly closer to home, but it is strictly an adoption agency. That's good news #1 Just got off the phone with the maternity home social worker, and the house mom is going to be calling me this evening to set up an appointment. Good news #2. My emotions are all swimming; been crying uncontrollably since talking to the counselor. I think I'm relieved more than anything.





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