Should he or shouldn't he??

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Should he or shouldn't he??
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:06am
My son has just completed his first week of school without incident or problems.

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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 12:42pm

Hey Sue :) I don't know what to tell you here, but I will say I know what you mean about "if it isn't broken, don't fix it" I feel that I have to watch my oldest DS to make sure he doesn't "over load" I guess I would have your DS find out what the after school time will entail, like you said. Also, Does he have thoughts of military after high school or college?

Good luck :)

Julie

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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 3:59pm
I would check out what the whole ROTC involves. My nephew was in ROTC and loved it. He has some learning disabilities and it gave him and taught him the structure that he needed.
I understand what you are saying about if it ain't broke don't fix it, but it might just make it even better.
Personally, I would check it out and think very seriously about it if ds really does want to do it.
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 5:12pm

I can only offer that we found ROTC to be a great asset to our daughter who is now beginning her 3rd year in the program. Since being in ROTC, our DD has become more organized, confident and self reliant. She has progressed through the program and is very proud of her accomplishments. At our school, the cadets are required to turn in a copy of their reort cards and parents and teachers often speak to the CO about problems the children are having. I would give a call to the school and get some info for yourself and them talk it over with your son. It is a time commitment so that would have to be taken into consideration.

Jane

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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:52pm
Although associating either of my kids in any remote way to military service scares the heck out of me, given the times we live in, my husband was in the army reserves when he was a young man and still raves about the benefits. He said it challenged him physically, emotionally and intellectually and he always looked forward to even those few weekends and evenings he did. Its also about a sense of belonging that stays with you all your life. We visited a museum recently that included memorabilia from his old reserve army unit and my husband was quite proud to be associated with it. So if he wants to do it, research it thoroughly because for many people this type of thing is highly beneficial.
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Sun, 09-02-2007 - 8:32am

I debated a bit about responding to this post, mostly because I'm hugely pro-military, and we have a very military family.

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Sun, 09-02-2007 - 11:11pm

Sigh - I say let him do what he wants to do because it is his future - rotc will help him be organized. All the studies show when kids are engaged in something they really feel passionate about and successful at that it brings up engagement in all the courses. My son (going into senior year) also has trouble handing work in but when it has some ramifications for him if he doesn't - at school - things work better.

I think the one thing I would have him do before agreeing fully to the plan is to show me the total plan - what class will he sub in? what is the afterschool obligation? And any other details you feel are relevant to making a fully informed decision. After that talk with him but leave the ultimate choice up to him and one he will defend.

My son had a similar decision to make last year around a sport and I will tell you he did quit one and move to a different sport. His self esteem was so boosted by the move. The coach was wonderful and completely supportive of his learning a new sport and he was spending time with people he respected and liked. My lesson, again, was to trust that he understands his world better than I do. White knuckle parenting at its best!

Good Luck
Courtney

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:38pm
Thanks Julie!
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:39pm
Thanks for your thoughts.
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:40pm
Thank you so much for your thoughts

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:41pm
Thank you so much!

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