Should it be different now?

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Should it be different now?
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:05am

DD15 has always had steady bfs. Right now she and the current one are "on a break" for the summer, although they still see each other frequently. A male friend of DD's, "B", has re-entered the picture. B and DD have been friends for a couple years, having met while playing club soccer (DD used to play on an all boy team that scrimmaged with B's team). B wanted to date DD, and I think DD had feelings for him as well but it just never happened. B is a *great* kid, bright, great sense of humor, respectful and they have tons in common.

So, what's the problem? B graduated from high school this month, and DD is a sophmore. He's 17, a young grad, and she just turned 15. He has been accepted at a college an hour and a half away, but will start out his first semester at our local state U here in town. He was involved in an ugly car accident last winter and had a head injury that he still sees a local neurosurgeon for, so his folks want him here until the Dr releases him hopefully later this fall.

Despite the fact that B is the type of kid any mom would want her DD to bring home, he is now a "college guy" and she is a 10th grader. I don't think DD wants them to be a couple or anything, but she wants to "hang out" with him as much as possible until he leaves for the other college in January. B is also friends with our DS18, and I know he would never do anything to hurt or endanger DD, if for no other reason than he knows DS would kill him, lol.

I've never worried about DD hanging out with B before, should I now? Should it be different now that he has graduated?

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 10:44am

I wouldn't think so, but you probably want to stay aware of what's going on. I remember having some 'what the heck, I can do whatever I want now' feelings after I graduated high school, and it's possible that B may feel somewhat the same. I guess sort of like 'short-timers' syndrome.

Not much help, I know. Maybe others will have something more helpful for you.

 

 

 

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:14pm

IMO, B is still the same person he was 2 or 3 months ago when you didn't worry about him hanging out with DD, I wouldn't really think about it at all.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 5:31pm

Hi, I am not a parent, but I was like your daughter not to long ago( I am 23 now) I met my now husband when I was 14 and he was 18. When we met he had just finished school as was working full time and I had just finished Freshmen year.

He was not like a typical 18 year old. He did not drink, go out and party or run wild which was why my mom let me date him.

I am sure that if B is a good guy now he will not turn into a wild college guy and if he does maybe your daughter will no longer want to hang out with him?