Should we let 17 yrs old DS drive to see girlfriend in college?

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Should we let 17 yrs old DS drive to see girlfriend in college?
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Sun, 09-18-2011 - 2:03pm

DS has a girlfriend (since this summer) that left for college in August.

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Registered: 03-07-2008

Well said!

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Someday, your DD will look back to now with turn joy when she is married to her MR. RIGHT.

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Registered: 04-30-2000

Hi Pam! Thanks for asking..

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Hey Cheryl - good to see you! How's your dd doing? Is she starting to move on from her ex? Is she still taking college classes?
Pam
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Registered: 04-30-2000

No. My dd was a good kid, drove ME crazy but I know she was a good kid. She wanted to go visit a female friend from church camp, a couple of hours away. I was NOT ready for her to drive that distand, again, mostly interstate. The compromise was, I drove her down on day. We met the friend at the mall. They then went and spent the day together, had lunch with the friend's dad, and then supper with me. I spent the day at the mall. IF going down with you, JUST for the day, isn't possible, or he is NOT happy with that?

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Registered: 11-21-2004

sorry in rereading what I meant it to say is this

you can always say 'you know if I was your age I'd feel the exact same way'.

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Registered: 11-21-2004

I like all the advice you are getting.

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Registered: 10-16-1999

I have found over the years that "mom's gut" is a pretty good barometer of what is going on with the kids.

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I like these suggestions - win-win for all if you have the time.
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Registered: 02-25-2002
After reading other posts, I see there is a lot going on here that I don't know about so I'll just tell what I did...my DD is 18, has her own car, works and goes to school and she wants to go visit her best friend at college next weekend, also about 90 mins away. It is highways and biways, not interstate, I said no. She can go, but she is taking the bus. I don't feel she is experienced enough to drive that route and I don't feel like spending an entire weekend worrying. She is visiting the very same school I went to and there is direct buses available.
Given your situation, the best parenting advice I ever got was to follow my instincts.

 

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