SIGH - is anyone still here?

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SIGH - is anyone still here?
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Sat, 12-14-2013 - 4:59pm

I still check this board faithfully a few times a day even though my youngest will be 24 in March. Just far enough away from today's teens that I'm having a hard time trying to come up with new topics. Even though I gave up the CL position 3 years ago when Justin turned 20 - this board is still near and dear to my heart. As far as I can tell the 'enhancements' they made a year or more ago have pretty much closed the boards down. I've been on Ivillage for probably 15 years (before it was Ivillage) and made many cyber friends here. If any of you want to keep in touch in other ways send me a PM either with your email or Facebook link (I'm a huge FB gal). My email should be in my profile. I'll still continue to check the board til the bitter end but just in case....

Pam

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Sat, 12-14-2013 - 7:56pm

Pam, I fee the same way.  I started on here in 1997, when my kids were still very small.  Over the years I learned so much that helped me raise my children as toddlers, preschoolers, elementary school children, high schoolers, and now college students.  I'm incredibly sad that iVillage has just sort of wandered off while I'm still here missing being able to talk to other moms anonymously. 

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Sat, 12-14-2013 - 11:12pm

Can’t believe that it’s almost Christmas again!!!

And yes, the years are passing much faster. A few years ago I saw a bumper snicker that said it best, “When you get over the hill, you pick up speed.”

Do you still hang the stockings for the boys??? Our fireplace now has NINE stockings hanging on it. Big year for the older two grandsons. Not all that expensive yet.

By the way, please keep that cold weather up north where it belongs!!!! LOL

I’ve been waiting for Sabrtooth to come in and tell us about her new grandchild and Threebigboyz1lilgal to come in and tell us about her new little grandson.

SILs are groomsmen this evening for a fellow at school. Bride and groom leave for Hawaii tomorrow evening. I’m envious!!

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 1:27am

I wasn't a big contributor but I definitely did a lot of reading here and still do check the board most days. I started on ivillage/parents place in 1996 in my quest for support and answers as to why my then 2yo DS2 was so fussy, active and difficult. It was the 'spirited kids' board that gave me my answers and now that fuss-pot (one of our nicer nicknames for him then) is 19 and graduated HS after a ton of non compliance, defiance, close calls with the law in his freshman year, barely passing classes and a lot of stress for us. Life lessons are beginning for him as he is working p/t, driving and paying us a small rent payment and is on his last warning if he wants to continue living with us, and would definitely be diagnosed as oppositional. That same year I was pg

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 1:29am

I wasn't a big contributor but I definitely did a lot of reading here and still do check the board most days. I started on ivillage/parents place in 1996 in my quest for support and answers as to why my then 2yo DS2 was so fussy, active and difficult. It was the 'spirited kids' board that gave me my answers and now that fuss-pot (one of our nicer nicknames for him then) is 19 and graduated HS after a ton of non compliance, defiance, close calls with the law in his freshman year, barely passing classes and a lot of stress for us. Life lessons are beginning for him as he is working p/t, driving and paying us a small rent payment and is on his last warning if he wants to continue living with us, and would definitely be diagnosed as oppositional. That same year I was pg

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 11:59am

I agree that it's too bad that a once active board has hardly any posts now.  It seems that way with most of the boards now on IV.  I miss some interesting discussions.  My youngest is 18 so I'm almost "aging out" of this board.

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 9:56pm

OKkkk trying again............to get this posted correctly ...another example of why these boards have died...arghhhh, apologies for posting 3 times....crossing fingers!!lol

I wasn't a big contributor but I definitely did a lot of reading here and still do check the board most days. I started on ivillage/parents-place in 1996 in my quest for support and answers as to why my then 2yo DS2 was so fussy, active and difficult. It was the 'spirited kids’ board that gave me my answers and now that fuss-pot (one of our nicer nicknames for him then) is 19 and graduated HS after a ton of non compliance, defiance, close calls with the law in his freshman year, barely passing classes and a lot of stress for us. Life lessons are beginning for him as he is working p/t, driving and paying us a small rent payment and is on his last warning if he wants to continue living with us - would definitely be diagnosed as oppositional. That same year I was pg with #3 and joined the 'August 97 expecting group' and went through the anticipation and excitement of finding out I would have my long awaited girl - she is now 16 and absolutely night and day from her lazy and non compliant brothers, shooting for the stars, no longer happy with a 4.0, worked at 13, and so far given us none of awful problems her brothers did. She's learning to drive so I am well aware of the challenges ahead with that especially as we have much higher expectations and conditions to gain driving privileges than their uninvolved dad has with both boys (he carries their insurance) – ex. dad took DS2 for license with next to no driving practice - twice, whereas I am enforcing DD stick to the DMV requirements PLUS plan on making her do a defensive driving class before she drives on our insurance. Anyway I stayed with the Aug 97 group for a couple of years, flew to meet several for a meet up when the babies were 9 months and later reconnected with them on a private FB page where I still am. So ivillage has been a huge part of my parenting and relationship support group after raising 3 singlehandedly and with no extended family support, and I even had an article printed in a large publication about the support I literally depended on from this online community for a time. So I too am sad that era has come to an endCry

 

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sun, 12-15-2013 - 10:02pm

omg - it is no wonder these boards are so quiet, it is SO difficult to post correctly, thought maybe it was to do with posting from my ipad, so Im back on laptop and still struggling posting. I hate that I ended up posting 3 times and it is STILL not the full post, I have been trying to edit it and obviously that doesnt even work, and deleting a post is obviously out of the question.... so this is my last attempt to try and send my whole post:

I wasn't a big contributor but I definitely did a lot of reading here and still do check the board most days. I started on ivillage/parents-place in 1996 in my quest for support and answers as to why my then 2yo DS2 was so fussy, active and difficult. It was the 'spirited kids’ board that gave me my answers and now that fuss-pot (one of our nicer nicknames for him then) is 19 and graduated HS after a ton of non compliance, defiance, close calls with the law in his freshman year, barely passing classes and a lot of stress for us. Life lessons are beginning for him as he is working p/t, driving and paying us a small rent payment and is on his last warning if he wants to continue living with us - would definitely be diagnosed as oppositional. That same year I was pg with #3 and joined the 'August 97 expecting group' and went through the anticipation and excitement of finding out I would have my long awaited girl - she is now 16 and absolutely night and day from her lazy and non compliant brothers, shooting for the stars, no longer happy with a 4.0, worked at 13, and so far given us none of awful problems her brothers did. She's learning to drive so I am well aware of the challenges ahead with that especially as we have much higher expectations and conditions to gain driving privileges than their uninvolved dad has with both boys (he carries their insurance) – ex. dad took DS2 for license with next to no driving practice - twice, whereas I am enforcing DD stick to the DMV requirements PLUS plan on making her do a defensive driving class before she drives on our insurance. Anyway I stayed with the Aug 97 group for a couple of years, flew to meet several for a meet up when the babies were 9 months and later reconnected with them on a private FB page where I still am. So ivillage has been a huge part of my parenting and relationship support group after raising 3 singlehandedly and with no extended family support, and I even had an article printed in a large publication about the support I literally depended on from this online community for a time. So I too am sad that era has come to an end...

 

Cry

 

 

 

 

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 12-16-2013 - 8:59am
Your post finally worked! I found Parentsplace back when Jason (now 26) was about 10. I hung out on the Boys board and soon started 'lurking' on the parents of teens board to get an idea of what I was in for! I cl'd this board from the time the boys were probably 13 and 16 or so until my youngest was turning 20 so it's always been near and dear to my heart.
Pam
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Registered: 07-30-1997
Mon, 12-16-2013 - 10:46am

I think I found PP when ds was 2, so that'd be 19 years ago.  Definitely still here, definitely still interested in keeping up with everyone. (He's now freaking out hearing about friends who are getting married after they graduate in spring - he doesn't have a gf right now and sure would like one that would be good and solid and faithful)  The 50something board is nice but not quite as active as we used to be here...

Sue

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Registered: 11-05-1998
Mon, 12-16-2013 - 12:50pm

I'm still here.  I lurk and check if there are new posts, but it's so slow, and can be so hard to post.  I posted a few things on the Parents of College Students board and the Middle School/High School board. 

I'm down to one teen at the moment.  Greg will be 18 in February.  He just got acceptance letters from Western Michigan Universty and Hope College (also in Michigan).  We're waiting to hear from the University of Michigan and University of Chicago, and expect those announcement by Christmas.  (chicago is his first choice).

Kimmy--baby Astor is a delight.  He'll be three months old on December 26.  Chris is handling fatherhood really well, especially considering that he doesn't particularly like babies.  To give Sophia a break, he takes the baby for an overnight once a week. In fact, on his 21st birthday a week ago, he told his friends he could not go out with them, because it was his night to have the baby.  He's also in charge of picking the baby up from childcare the two days a week he is there, and taking care of him until Sophia gets home from class.   She is still living at the maternity home.  If/when she gets and keeps a job, they hope to get an apartment together -- probably in the spring.  Astor was a big baby (11 pounds 3 oz) at birth, and now is 16 pounds, 4 oz.  He's very laid back and smiley and very sturdy.  also quite bald! 

Matt (my 23 year old) lost his call center job of almost 2 years in early November.  He hasn't found anything else yet.  I'm trying to be supportive, but  he has no ambition and no discernible goals.  Quite honestly, I'm not sure I'd hire him if I were in a hiring position.  His dad has given him six months to get a job and get moved out of the house.

Elizabeth

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