SIGH - is anyone still here?

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Registered: 02-14-2000
SIGH - is anyone still here?
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Sat, 12-14-2013 - 4:59pm

I still check this board faithfully a few times a day even though my youngest will be 24 in March. Just far enough away from today's teens that I'm having a hard time trying to come up with new topics. Even though I gave up the CL position 3 years ago when Justin turned 20 - this board is still near and dear to my heart. As far as I can tell the 'enhancements' they made a year or more ago have pretty much closed the boards down. I've been on Ivillage for probably 15 years (before it was Ivillage) and made many cyber friends here. If any of you want to keep in touch in other ways send me a PM either with your email or Facebook link (I'm a huge FB gal). My email should be in my profile. I'll still continue to check the board til the bitter end but just in case....

Pam

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Tue, 01-14-2014 - 8:35pm

Kimmy, I'm just now seeing your story about the couple who were able to take over the cancelled wedding of the young woman in the car crash---great story! It reminded me of another story, this one was in the news a few months back and maybe you heard about it: A young woman cancelled her wedding just a few days before it was scheduled, and her parents had already paid for the hall, flowers, caterer, etc. The family decided that instead of wasting everything they would invite needy people to partake of what would have been the wedding feast. I saw photos, many of the children were in awe at the elegant setting and their parents appreciative of the opportunity for their families to have such a rare treat. It was a very touching story.

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Registered: 06-22-2001
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 1:03pm

Hi, well I haven't been on here in years and thought I'd check out the boards. Unfortunately, I can't even find any titles of boards, just conversation?  What is going on? I don't know if it's me or what.  I wish I knew who else had boards. Do you know of any? Thanks so much for any help!

Ruled1

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Registered: 12-19-2013
Fri, 12-20-2013 - 2:55am
I just found you, so please don't go anywhere. thanks for reading and giving advice.
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Registered: 08-08-2009
Thu, 12-19-2013 - 11:40pm

Sabrtooth, I had to chuckle about the bump and swimmer. When daughter was in a family way, I recall calling a wedding dress shop asking, “How long can you fit a pregnant bride into a wedding dress, without it showing.” “If it’s the first pregnancy, almost all of the brides under three months will not show. It gets iffier during the fourth month, especially with the form fitting dresses. Gets more challenging with each week after that forth month, but we have some dresses for those in the last trimester that flair out. Second child is a little more difficult after three months. And if it’s your daughter, relax mom; it’s almost respectable nowadays.” I asked how she knew and with a chuckle she said “BTDT with a daughter and we get calls like this from mothers several times a week.”

I hear you on that cost of wedding issue. We got off extremely easy by doing a “destination wedding” and the six parents and two couples had a mostly stress free vacation, with a total cost not much more than the cost of a vacation. However, this is not always doable when the bride or the other family wants the traditional wedding and reception. And a wedding is a merger of families, so you try to accommodate where possible. In some faiths it’s important for it to be done in the faith. I went to the wedding of a coworker who had been married for years, whose kids were teens, when she and hubby married with a Catholic priest. It was important to them and their family to do so.

This wedding a couple of weeks ago that the SILs were groomsmen in was one of those “shotgun weddings” between the daughter and the son of two major partners where they work part time. The groom was one of those students that our youngest SIL had suggested going to a lesser law school when he was rejected by the better schools. He passed on that idea the first year after college, but ended up joining our couples the next year. He is 25 with the bride being 18. It seems that the two had been secretly dating for several months. Our couples knew nothing about the dating until the guy shared the situation with them and they suggested that they speak to the parents quickly. When the parents found out, they also found out that our couples knew. The phones were a ringing down at the Residence Inn that November evening while the guys were at the annual deer hunt. LOL

After getting all the facts, when emotions had had time to subside, Butch’s dad explained to both fathers that our couples did not know they were dating until the guy was asking how to tell the parents, with Butch being an expert on that subject having done it once. Having had time to think with his wife, listen to the couple wanting to get married, the father of the girl shared the impossibility of putting together a large wedding prior to Christmas, while the girl would still look good in a wedding dress, the desire of the parents and the girl to have a traditional wedding, etcetera. All the nonsense that is a part of humanity.

The following Monday, Butch’s dad was speaking with a client whose daughter had been in a major fender bender and sustained broken bones in both legs that would leave her in a wheel chair for several months, which would force the postponement of her wedding with lots of nonrefundable fees gone, but the dad was grateful for the situation as it was. Butch’s dad told him that he might know of some parents that would be very interested in buying that wedding package—venue, cake, bride and groom on top of the cake, catering, musicians, flowers, photographer, videographer, everything, except for the groom, invitations, dresses, and the minister, priest, or rabbi. This wedding had been put together by people with money to spend and picked up by people with money to spend. Two sets of WINNERS in that business transaction and I have been told a very beautiful wedding.

One thing these two have going for them is that they come from financially well off households which can insulate them from the financial stresses that most young couples have to face. But, like all couples they will have to make it last.

Sabrtooth, when that grandbaby gets here, be sure to have the video running when the new father changes the first diaper. Priceless!!!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 12-18-2013 - 9:41am

Hi ladies,

We haven't been told that the boards will be closing after the first of the year.  We are operating as business as usual and will be sure to update you all as soon as we hear anything.   I hope you all have a good Christmas.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 2:49pm

https://www.mediabistro.com/tvnewser/ivillage-to-be-shuttered-as-standalone-site-folded-into-today-com_b204887

http://www.mediapost.com/publications/article/214159/nbcu-to-fold-ivillage-into-todaycom.html

Don't know how you missed this, Pam. Since the existing Today.com website looks like an on-line People magazine, and there are NO other forums, I can't see how the IV message boards would fit. I suspect they will disappear once the IV segment shows up on Today.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 10:04am
I'm around, but I've been extremely busy with work, the kids and the holidays. I do check the boards at least once most days, but if its a really busy day, I don't.
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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 8:34am
They're closing Ivillage after the first of the year? That means the boards won't even be here anymore? If that's the case - anyone that wants to stay in touch please send me a pm with your email address or Facebook info. I'd hate to just wake up one morning and not have a way to communicate with you guys!
Pam
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 1:47am

Since they are closing Ivillage after the first of the year, it seems somewhat pointless, but I do meander over occasionally.  And, as Ash mentioned, the sleaziness of the posts that IV chooses to flag is off-putting.  Ivillage was for WOMEN when it started.  That, along with a whole lot else, got lost along the way.

Anyway, KIMMY, Rae is not due till 4/11.  We found out we are getting another granddaughter!!  And according to her mother, who seems to have exploded in the bump department, she is a champion swimmer.  Left to right, right to left, doing a few frog squats...  Perhaps trying to communicate via morse code, on her mother's bladder. 

They are getting married in a small civil ceremony on Valentine's Day.  They still have the deposit down on the Morton Arboretum for next October, and have whittled the guest list from 180 to 140--40 of which are ours.  Rae does agree with us that it's an unnecessary expense, but so far, Ant is adamant.  We shall see how he feels once the baby is born, especially if Rae does not find a new job.  Their dime, their decision.  A destination wedding is out of the question, because the whole point is that he wants his extended family and friends to participate in a beautiful wedding.

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Mon, 12-16-2013 - 10:35pm
Elizabeth - had to lol when I read this because I could say the exact same about both my boys! 19 and 22yo - especially the 19, the older one just got rehired after being let go after 1.5 years - we will see how long that lasts 'I'm trying to be supportive, but he has no ambition and no discernible goals'

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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