Sleepovers and supervision
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| Sat, 09-02-2006 - 4:25pm |
OK - really beginnning to doubt myself here - am I too protective/worryintg?
Last weekend, DD15 went to a friend's to sleep over, not a "sleepover party", just the two of them. When we got there, friend's mom was not there. Friend (K) said "my mom's not home from work yet. She usually gets home around 7" I was NOT happy, since DD had told me mom would be there, but it was already 6pm, so no biggie. I told DD I was not happy, but let her stay (and she had to be ready for pickup at 9:30 next morning for a doc's appt. TURNS OUT that K's mom didn't come home until 10pm, and then went out again (to the drugstore?) with K's stepdad. When I came in the morning, everyone (adults and kids) were still asleep, so I look like a total witch to make my DD get up so early on the weekend (but she knew I was coming).
FF to this weekend. Another sleepover at K's house (two other friends will be there, too). I told DD that K's mother had to be there, and DD (reluctantly) IM'd K that she couldn't stay if the mother wasn't going to be there.
Am I too over-protective? It doesn't help that K is one of DD's friends who has been known to drink at school (during lunch time). It's not that I don't trust my DD, I just don't like the idea of a bunch of 15yo's with minimal supervision. This is why I don't mind being the official sleepover house.
WWYD?
What should I do if K's mom isn't there at dropoff?
Sue

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I am comfertable with my kids sleeping over at a friends house if I know the child and the parents. If the friend is new, I like drop them off personally to meet the parents and introduce myself, just to examine the type of place my child will be staying at. If the parent is not home for a little part of it in the afternoon, I am okay, but I like them there before dark. I don't mind if friends sleep over either, but I like it if my husbandor or myself is home, personally myself because my husband locks himself in a room to avoid them. I usually let them stay up pretty late, but they can't be overwhelmingly loud past 11:00. I usually check on them around 3:00, when I get a glass of water so see if they are asleep and to turn off the tv.
Kate
Proud mom to Gavin(22),Jacob(17),Brooklyn(14),Everett(13),and Sienna(10)
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