So when they turn 18??
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So when they turn 18??
| Sun, 12-30-2007 - 10:55am |
Can someone please clarify me on what suddenly happens when your kids turn 18? It seems from different threads I've read over the past few months that the kids then have rights that their parents have no control over. I never went through that rebellious stage unfortunately, so I continued to defer to my parents at least until I was through college (and I started college well before I turned 18). I know kids can't legally drink until they're 21. Are they legally allowed to do everything else when they're 18? Even if they're still in high school and financially dependent on their parents?
I'm not being argumentative--I just want to know because I have less than 2 years till my oldest turns 18!

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Hey Lisa,
I think you said it even better because you added the fact of letting them begin to spread their wings :)
I won't go into all the legalities of a kid turning 18.
Like you, I had a pretty strong rebellious streak in me when I was a teen - but it was pretty deeply buried by fear of my dad.
They can here. They have to give their parents permission to see their report cards.
They can sign themselves out of classes. Parents no longer sign permission slips.
If, by 18, the student still has to be monitored to do their homework then IT IS TOO LATE.
If, at 18, the kid is being suspended then there is much more going wrong here. If the kid is not attending classes, THEY FAIL. PERIOD.
Here, kids are in the last few months of their high school career at 18. If they haven't learned that fact of life, by 18, no amount of parental hand holding or micro-managing will make any difference. That should have happened years earlier.
You have to start treating them like adults sometime. The safety net of childhood has to pulled sometime.
My poor kids....lol
"If, by 18, the student still has to be monitored to do their homework then IT IS TOO LATE.
If, at 18, the kid is being suspended then there is much more going wrong here. If the kid is not attending classes, THEY FAIL. PERIOD.
Here, kids are in the last few months of their high school career at 18. If they haven't learned that fact of life, by 18, no amount of parental hand holding or micro-managing will make any difference. That should have happened years earlier.
You have to start treating them like adults sometime. The safety net of childhood has to pulled sometime. "
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