some semi-good news about my son...
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| Sun, 04-30-2006 - 10:45am |
well i have 'talked' here about my ds (almost 20...) and his issues. he has been out of a 'normal' framework for about 6 months - no school or work, he has been seeing a therapist and we are in touch with a psychologist (who isn't so great), he was on meds but is off them now, he has been exercising and generally 'getting better',but it really bothered me that he doesn't have some kind of normative life, friends, framework - some 'reason' to get up and out of the house in the morning.
anyway, we have been having several discussions, and i also met with his therapist - because i felt that he was 'stuck and needed help to move on. and i told him that he needs to do "something" - either get a job, or volunteer, or take some kind of classes (or a combination). anyway, this morning he went to his library (the library where he takes out books, ) and 'volunteered' to help them (they are renovating), and at first they said that they were set up, but then they agreed. i was so excited ----- it doesn't matter really how much he will do this, but i was so excited that he did this, did it on his own, and will actually start to get back to life.
I must admit that i was in the mall when he called me, and tears just sprung to my eyes. its been so long since he has done "anything".

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You're just being a mom, thinking of how far DS has to go to be up there with his peers as far as having a life, but he also has to get there one step at a time.
thanks pam.
he's been thru two days - he is doing ok. gets up early, takes a shower, has breakfast and leaves. from what i understand it will last till thursday.
well ---- ds got thru one week of volunteering. he has been packing boxes and shelpping and being apparently very helpful, now they want him to come back next week too.
i am veyr very happy and proud of him - he's been getting up on time, showering, going to work, etc. even told me today that he has been striking up conversations with the other people there, "even girls, mommmy, even people who are close to my age" (he's never had a problem relating to adults - adults always seem to take to him and like him, its just his peers with whom he has had difficulties).
well - this is one happy momma, who is taking it one step at a time. thanks for all the support
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