something I never thought we'd deal with

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something I never thought we'd deal with
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 12:10pm

A month or so ago I posted wondering what kind of changes might occur with DD15 when DS19 left for college out of state.

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 12:55pm

I'd have the girls stay at the hotel with you.

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 2:07pm

Absolutely not!

I would not take that responsibility for the BFF myself

I also think boys living in a college dorm should have reasonable assurance that the girls in their midst are of legal age.




Edited 9/13/2007 4:38 pm ET by windrush54
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 2:48pm

When I was a freshman in college, I remember having my DB, who was a freshman in high school sleep over in my room (back then I lived in a regular 2-person dorm room, not a suite).

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 3:45pm

I guess it just really depends on the two kids and your gut instincts. When I was a college freshman living in the dorms, I had my little cousin who was about 12 or 13 spend a few days with me. It was a coed dorm, but boys weren't allowed to stay on the girl's side, so he actually slept in a guy friend's room on the other side. I wouldn't have dreamed of allowing him to drink or go to a party and I certainly didn't do anything like that. We actually went shopping and had mud fights and he attended some classes with me and went to some of my friends' classes. Everyone was calling him "the little prodigy". He had a blast and so did I and I was very proud to have been able to give him a little taste of college life.


If you trust your kids to behave properly, then I think it could be a wonderful experience for them. I believe that most dorms still have Residential Advisors, you know, someone who is kind of responsible for the behavior of those on the floor. Maybe you could put that person on notice that your dd is going to be there and to watch out for her as well? You could also notify campus security, etc. The more people who aware that she is quite young and is present and ought not to be involved in anything inappropriate, the better. Again, though, I believe you have to go with your understanding of the character and behavior of the your children and your gut instincts. I know my dd17 would never EVER allow her younger brothers to drink. That is just the way she is, always trying to set a good example, etc. If you have a gut instinct that this situation would not turn out well, then perhaps you should go with that. I know that my instincts pretty much always turn out to be right when it comes to *my* kids.