sometimes parents make me wonder
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sometimes parents make me wonder
| Sun, 07-02-2006 - 3:35pm |
I heard a piece of information this week that, well, makes me wonder about parents.
Parents of a couple (acquantances of my DD) allowed the couple to rent a motel room & spend the night together after the prom. The parents had to do it because the kids are underage!
This is both set of parents!
When I overheard DD and her friends talking about it, I was floored.

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Yes, you hear about parents doing all kinds of things. I've told this story here before, my dd knew a boy who had his 15th birthday party at home. The parents were there but mostly stayed out of sight. They purchased alcohol for the party. All pot and cigarette smoking had to be done outside. The guests ranged from 13-18yo. (I refused to allow dd to go when I heard that "anybody too drunk to drive home can spend the night".) And get this: the father is an attorney!!!
When my niece graduated from HS she and her bf and another 17-18yo couple flew to Cabo San Lucas and stayed a few days at a hotel or condo, and my brother and SIL paid her portion. This trip was in lieu of some kind of senior party trip to Mexico or where ever. I totally didn't understand how he thought this was okay but my kids were younger then so what did I know about having a 17yo? When my kids hit 17-18 I *still* didn't condone them doing something like that and definitely would not pay for it!
I agree with you. It sounds like "borderline" pimping. Needless to say, my DD is not friends with this couple anymore.
Shouldn't be surprised. The boy's parents were hosting "outdoor" sleepovers for the gang of kids when they were 13 and 14. I never allowed DD to stay over at these parties.
Here here! May sound weird but....let them go out and find a back seat like the rest of us did! LOL....
No really...my parents made it hard for me and I'm glad for that because I was well into my 20s before I was sexually active. Before that with limited time, permission, circumstances etc. it was mostly "making out" and that's about it. And looking back at some of those "boys" I made out with I'm glad it didn't go any further....LOL!
Well I wouldn't put much stock in what your dd says other people's parents insist upon. Certainly there are parents who are more permissive than others but I'd say on the whole you don't know what the other kids are required to do. Sometimes it feels like I'm the only parent who is calling or texting my dd's cell to check in on her but with the number of kids out there carrying their phones I'm certainly NOT the only parent who's calling.
But I think for me anyway its also that I am a very involved parent and I am one of those that does try to make things safe and easy for my dd. For example, my dd and her friends bought tickets to a concert two weeks from now. The concert is in the city and they have zero experience commuting to the city and how to handle themselves. So I offered my services to "chaperone" in a way by getting a ticket myself and going along. I also bought the tickets on the other side of the theatre so I didn't interfere...
Personally I have no taste for this particular band but it was either I go along or subject these kids to the dangers of the city. They "claim" their parents would let them go anyway but I know for a fact I was used as a bargaining chip ie that so-and-so's mom is coming along otherwise these parents wouldn't have allowed the trip...
So you don't know what you don't know ... all is not as it appears.
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