Son took my underwear! :(
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Son took my underwear! :(
| Sat, 04-08-2006 - 9:34am |
Ok, I'm hoping someone can offer some advice. I was cleaning my 13 year old son's room--mainly getting all the junk out of where it isn't supposed to be and putting it in the middle of the room so he could put it away. He loves to put trash, etc, everywhere. Well, about a month ago when I was cleaning I found a pair of my underwear under his bed. I took it to my room and didn't say anything to him. Yesterday I looked under the mattress (which I've done before) and there was another pair of my underwear. Again, I didn't say anything, because I don't know what to say. Any advice? He was busted a month ago for surfing porn sites on his computer. He no longer has a computer or access to the internet at all. But this underwear thing just really bothers me. I mean, they're MY underwear! Please help!!

Hi. I don't think it's unusual for a thirteen year old boy who's discovering sexuality to have a girl's underwear in his room but I don't blame you for being a little anxious about that fact that it's yours. Keep talking to him. Talk about sex and how it's normal to want to explore. This is so very normal! Having women's clothing is also not unusual no matter what one's sexual orientation is.
Letting him know that you know about your underwear in his room might really embarass him. I think I'd take it back and then try and keep it somewhere else, that's he's not familiar with??? Either that or leave it where it is and then hide the rest.
I think I'd just roll with this one for a while and see what happens, all the while keeping communication as open as possible.
A tough one eh?
cathy