Son wants to dress as a girl for Halloween

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Son wants to dress as a girl for Halloween
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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:03pm

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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:12pm

It's not uncommon around here for preteen/young teen boys to dress like females - typically cheerleaders, old ladies, etc. Sometimes a boy and girl will go together as a famous couple with the boy as the female part and the girl as the male part. Dressing up is a big part of Halloween. I think your dh is making way too big a deal of it. IMO it's just kind of bizarre to tell him he has to wear female underwear if he wants to dress up like a girl for Halloween. I remember dressing up like a baby for Halloween and my parents certainly didn't tell me I had to wear a diaper!

Pam
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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:33pm

I could swear I read this post last Halloween or a very long time ago.

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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 11:31pm
We have girls. So, I can't answer for sure. But, lots of guy's do it here. Somewhat llike on white Christmas with Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye. I'd make sure he was up to handling the razzzzzzing afterwards though.
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 1:03am

It's very normal around here to see straight, masculine boys dress as girls for halloween. They think it's absolutely hilarious and frankly, it's usually the most secure of guys who do it. I'd see this as your DS feeling pretty darn comfortable with who he is not afraid everyone will think he's gay because he goes drag for the biggest dress-up day of the year. Socially insecure boys, boys that do lean towards transgender... they don't take such a risk lightly.

I think your son not changing his mind is less about his having some internal need to wear girls underwear and more about standing up to dad. Your DH has pretty much made it impossible for your son to change his mind without "losing." Looks like they've both dug their heals in.

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:10am

When my son was in honors choir in high school, their spring pops concert always had a number where the guys dressed in drag.

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:10am
Music--I had the same feeling. Seemed like a very familiar letter.
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:17am
I kind of did, too, and debated even answering but the board's been so slow lately I figured why not!
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:28am
Same here.
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 9:40am
threebigboyz1lilgal wrote:

It's Halloween.

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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 12:41pm

I just hit the last "reply" mahopac so this isn't directed solely at you- but good for you for supporting your child.:smileyhappy:

I think I see something along these lines every year. As everybody says, it's dress up day. I'm sure this son won't be the only boy dressed as a girl, probably the easiest costume there is. Perhaps dad should watch the kids closely this year and notice how common it is.

Most high schools have a "Spirit Week". Most of them that we've been through have an Opposite Day because it's something most students can participate in without a big expense. And it's always the most participated in day of the week. Not everybody can come up with a good Superhero but most kids have a mom/dad or brother/sister and friends.

I have to agree that this is based in dads insecurity (if this post is for real). My Son-I-L is a tough guy macho logger (he thinks) and will sit with his 4yo boy (my Gson) over here and play with aunties Barbies with him. We have outdoor sports equipment too, but if it's indoor weather, that's whats here.

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