Sports Moms -- and Worse
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Sports Moms -- and Worse
| Sat, 09-29-2007 - 1:16pm |
Ick. I don’t know why this is bugging me, it’s one of those things I should blow off, so I think I need some perspective here.

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Awww Julie! Sending some <<>> your way! I hope things in your life will start feeling good again. Sometimes you just
Well, I always like to try to play devil's advocate (maybe that should be taken literally in this situation? LOL) and try to understand the other's point of view, see the best in people, etc. Maybe b/c her son likes your ds and wants to partner with him she sincerely thought she was being helpful? Obviously, it was misguided, but some people, it seems, can get really into their "sport" and think that commenting on the game and the plays and everything, is casual conversation. I know my bf does this with his friends (key word, here, friends) at his son's football practices, and he goes to the practices with the intention of seeing where his son went wrong and helping him improve his game (the boy is only 9). Maybe the woman was trying to be friends and is used to speaking that way at practices?
I don't know. I know it would be weird for me, too. But since she was attempting to carry on a conversation, I doubt her intentions were to be offensive. It seems like in her own, odd, way she was trying to bond with someone she thought would be the mother of her son's partner. I have come to learn over the past year or so, because of some of my dd17's friend's moms, that some people are just horrible, rotten people. I suppose she could be one of them. Maybe for now, you could give her the benefit of the doubt and just assume she has pathetic social skills?
Good luck with her...she sounds like a lot of fun. ;)
<<This is just junior high tennis!
((((((((((((((Hugs Julie))))))))))))))))
Im so sorry about this.
{{{hugs}}} Julie.
I remember one mom I met the when L was in first grade. After introductions and our daughters running off to play, she launched into a long discussion about how amazing her son was, ending with "you should be so lucky to have L turn out as good as M."
OMG - it was so pathetic that it almost made me laugh - which I guess kept me from throttling her.
The only way I know to deal with this sh*t is to nod and smile like you did, and then get away as fast as possible. I interpret this kind of bragging and putting other people's kids down as deep insecurity. People who have kids who have achieved something special don't feel the need to brag about them all the time, and certainly don't feel the need to put other kids down.
Sue, mom to Leah and Seth
Oh thanks so much
<< or maybe she just trying to get something going for her own DS with W. (W says he's not especially well liked.) >>
That was my thought! She was trying to sell HER son as W's partner and hopefully buddy by telling you how wonderful he is.
Who knows which came first, the chicken or the egg? She could turn people off her son or she could have become this way because of how he has been treated.
I think you probably dealt with it just fine. She may strike you differently next time around and, if you had reacted stronger, there might not be a next time around
BIG hug on the DH working from home.
Z was a 2 sport athlete from middle school through high school, and N has been a cheerleader for 2 years now, and I've come to the conclusion that there are just some parents out there who get their own self-worth from their child's achievements - and if the child has some weaknesses, they tend to gloss those over while bragging about their accomplishments.
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