To stay up for curfew or going to bed
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To stay up for curfew or going to bed
| Sat, 02-18-2006 - 6:21pm |
I was wondering how you all handle curfew. Do you stay up or go to bed. I for one have always stayed up waiting for the kids to get home. In my house for my son who is a senior and works almost a full time job during the week the curfew is 9:30 and on weekend 11:30My daughter who is a sophmore her bf leaves at the same times. There are nights that I am so tired and would like to go to bed but then I think I won't here the phone. And probably wouldn't here what time kids got in. So do you stay up or go to bed?
melisd

Depends on which kid is out and where they are.
If I was asleep when dd came in she had to come wake me up. Not just call "I'm home" from the bedroom door but come next to me, shake my shoulder if necessary, until I was awake enough to make some conversation. Then I could look at the time, and smell her breath if I thought she sounded like she had been drinking.
I heard of someone who would set an alarm clock with the curfew time. If the teen got home before curfew he would turn off the alarm; if the alarm went off then mom knew that the teen wasn't home on time.
I stay up, I can't sleep anyway, I just worry myself sick, so I wait.
I know a lady that handles it in a very unusual way that is very effective. Her kids have an 11pm curfew. They know the rules, they know the consequences. Mom sets an alarm on her side of the bed for curfew at 11. The kid has to be in the house and have the alarm turned off before it rings, or she imposes whatever the preagreed on punishment. She said she had 1 that had her hand on the clock and it went off in her hand! Still, the punishment stands. That puts all the pressure on the kid to not only be home, but by a set time and a bit before. None of this "it was close" stuff. It's all or nothing. It's terrificly effective.
This will the the technique I use when my DD (she's 11) is going out, but since I only learned about it a year ago, I felt it was pretty late in the game to start it with my oldest.
jt