step parenting advice

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 4:31pm

i'm not a step parent, but I'm curious what those of you who are think of this guys take on it.

http://www.rosemond.com/?page_id=1528

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 5:58pm

I'm not a step-parent either but I think he makes some good points although I think there are a lot of variables. I think it depends on the age of the kid(s) when the step family is formed. I would think it would be a lot easier to step in and set rules/discipline/etc. when the step child is 6 than when they're 16. It's hard enough for a bio parent to do that! I mean - if we were first given our children as teenagers instead of

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 9:37pm

Rosemond is basing this on his personal experience, where his father was really not involved in his life, so it was easy for his stepfather to become his "real" father.

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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 12:06am

A while back I expressed my opinion of the <<>> idea.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 11:29am

I partially agree & partially disagree w/ this.

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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 12:13pm

I agree that a step-parent is never going to be the bio-parent in a child's heart.

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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 3:22pm

I agree w/ your ideals, but real life doesn't always work this way, which is why more 2nd marriages end in divorce than 1st marriages.

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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 3:51pm

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Wed, 06-15-2011 - 7:34pm

<<*I* would not tolerate a kid who, every time I said something they didn't like, picked themselves up and ran to the other parents house.>>

I'm not a step-parent, my children do not have a step-parent either - we're one of those families in the minority who are still in a first marriage.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 10:18pm

What I meant was not let me parent WITH him, INSTEAD of him, because he was so screwed up.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 06-15-2011 - 11:03pm

I know what you ment, and I suspect you would have been the best parent out of the BUNCH--ex-wife included.

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