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Stressed Out 16 year old
| Thu, 10-11-2007 - 9:57am |
My daughter has been SO stressed out lately and I honestly don't know how to help her.
| Thu, 10-11-2007 - 9:57am |
My daughter has been SO stressed out lately and I honestly don't know how to help her.
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I think you need to force her to take a mental health day - she can call you with a mysterious stomach flu after a big test or take a day either side of a weekend. Read some of the syllabi (sp?) from the teachers and you understand the stress level of kids. In our high school they can be sick but they have to have the work by next class - I feel bad for kids today. I think she needs the break before she gets herself sick - good for you for noticing and being concerned and not feeding the frenzy.
I think probably the dancling is a form of stress relief at this point. It is just like
Courtney
There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day... there's a great big beautiful tom
As someone who has not long been out of their teens and is soon to be a mom I have to agree that stress is high on the highschool generation, even more so then when I was at school 5 years ago. I'm 22 and we leave at 16 here although it's been put up to 18 soon.
Not only do you have the severe mental peer pressure but you have the pressure to do well in your exams. In England we take courses so we are graded on each individual subject. Each course has between 2-4 course work papers which count toward your grade. For Examlple I'm reataking my English right now.
I have 4 courseworks due in for december and I just started the course. They want all my drafts! Now school kids take 14 subjects, thats 14x4= 56 thats a possible 56 courseworks (it depends on the subject because math only has 3) that are done though out the school year and most subjects require 2 exams. This is all put on a 16 year old. When you chose your subjects from 16-18 you take 3 subjects which have their course work, their exams and are even more intense then the 14 you take at 16.
I'm from the UK, when I was at school I was taking English, Math, Biology, Chemistry, Music, History, French and P.E. We didn't have an exam for P.E. But the rest we did. These were the compulsory and minimum subjects I could take. The stress from the coursework got too much and I ended up dropping out and reataking at college. I also do online courses to try and fill in my education gaps in my spair time.
Now with the increasing peer pressure at schools it's a wonder kids arn't dropping out left right and center. I find that it's not only mentaly demanding but it's physically demanding too. In 12 years time when my baby enteres highschool I will be doing all I can to help her get though it. I know it will probably be 10 times more intensive then it was for me.
S xoxox
hello,
I know it's an old post but my chiro put my son (he was 17) on Valerian and kava it helped alot and the natural stuff just works diferent it relaxes them without the side affects of getting high.
helloo...
It seems that your daughter enjoys her busy schedule but that you are the one that is bothered by it...It seems that everywhere she has to be is mandatory and that you feel helpless about her not having down time for herself...I suggest you have her write down what she considers "down time" to be and suggest that she do that twice a month....it may be a getting a manicure or a nap...I know it sounds a bit simplistic, but according to what you are witnessing, she really has her plate full...Is she busier than you?? do you feel as if you are watching a movie when she is around??? is it always you seeing her go off to do something while you're heart is breaking to see her frazzled? if so, then something has to give...try telling her that you want to spend some quality time with her, and with with a million people hanging around...it seems that she's always around people(in school, dance classs, family function) so maybe if she did something for herself,by herself or maybe if she has mother-daughter time with you, even if it's for a couple of hours, she can unwind and be herself...
I hope that helped a little
:)
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