Summer activities

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Summer activities
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Mon, 06-02-2003 - 1:32pm
My son is 12 and has a tendency to hang with the bad kids, in or out of school. Well, I've decided, before he actually becomes a full teen, it was time to stop that behavior. The problem is, there is only one other boy in our neighborhood who is in his age range. For the past 3 years, he has hung with this boy every day, at least 10-15 hours a day (summer and weekends), including sleepovers.

However, his parents divorced and it seems all **LL broke loose. The past year, he's been into drugs, flunking out of school, hitting teachers, etc. Of course, I can't let my son hang around with this boy anymore.

So now what? There are no other kids in the neighborhood my son's age. Does anyone have any good and inexpensive ideas/activities for a teenager over the summer?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 1:36pm
Send him off to a rural uncle's house for the summer to bale hay for his keep all summer.

That's what my parents did to me and look how wonderful I turned out!

Seriously, this might be the summer to send him to another relative's house as a *treat* (rather than a way of getting him away from the problem child up the street). He doesn't have to know why he's going, just that he is.

Do you have a relative who would take him for the summer?

Firefly

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 1:41pm
A couple other suggestions would be volunteer work or possibly a jr. counselor at a summer day camp. If he has some friends who are good kids perhaps you could arrange with their mom to get them together often. If you work outside the home perhaps your ds could go to their house a couple days a week and you could reciprocate by hosting a sleepover or something on the weekend.

Good luck and hopefully you'll get some other suggestions. You are right to want to avoid the situation where your ds has too much time on his hands!

Pam



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Mon, 06-02-2003 - 2:04pm
I agree with Pam's suggestions!! In addition, how about babysitting? I'm sure there are working parents of young kids out there. Boys can babysit just as well as girls, and are often better with little boys. 12-15 is usually the prime age for babysitters--old enough to be responsible, too young for a "real" job. It would also help your son think of ways to stay occupied, by forcing him to plan activities for the little kids! Good Luck.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 10:12pm
Does the township offer anything?

psst, what are his interests?
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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 06-03-2003 - 3:55pm
Does your area have a YMCA or Boys club? They often have mini camps etc. Also you could consider Boyscouts. Does your area have a well supervised public pool? Maybe you could get a summer pass to the pool. I did that last year for our 12 yr old daughtr. It gave her the feeling of indepedence. Of course the Pool was run by our YMCA and I also work for the Y so if there was any nonsense I would be sure to hear about it. But I am sure I would have gotten the pass regardless if I worked for the Y.